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Insights by Dr. Lai
Dr. Lai's 61 insights deliver impactful wisdom and guidance!
Socialization Is Not an Issue for Homeschool Students in Hong Kong at University
My daughter, Paris, was doing revision with her classmates at the university library and took photos together! This is what youth and university life are all about!
我的女兒, Paris, 和她的大學同學們在大學圖書館一起複習，還拍了照片！這才是青春和大學生活的真正意義！
Many people often ask me: My daughter entered university at the young age of 15, younger than most of her classmates, and previously she was a homeschooled student. Would she be able to get along well with her peers at university?
很多人喜歡問我：女兒 15 歲進入大學，年齡比其他同學小，之前又是在家教育學生，那和別的學生相處得到嗎？
The answer is perfectly captured in a single picture of Paris doing revision with her university classmates. It puts all doubts to rest. My daughter gets along wonderfully with her peers, building genuine connections and friendships!
一張女兒在大學和同學一起溫習及合照的照片已經解答所有疑問！女兒跟一羣同學相處超友好！
Written By Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Guangzhou, Mainland China
Paris ( 從在家教育升入大學的學生) 和她的大學同學們在大學圖書館一起溫習，還拍了照片！這才是青春和大學生活的真正意義！
Shattering Stereotypes: Paris's Homeschooling Journey to University
Life is a journey defined by belief and determination. When Paris, my daughter, created this video at just 12 years old, we faced immense societal pressure and skepticism surrounding homeschooling in Hong Kong. Despite these challenges, we remained resolute in our decision and unwavering in our commitment, striving toward our ultimate goal—leading Paris to gain admission to a UGC-funded university in our city.
We stood firm in our conviction, and Paris believed in herself. She was determined to defy the misconceptions about homeschooling—the perception that homeschool students were truants or less capable. With unwavering faith and remarkable resilience, Paris transformed doubt into motivation, using it to propel her forward.
Three years ago, at the age of 15, Paris proudly achieved her university dream here in Hong Kong. Her dedication and success became a powerful testament to the strength and potential of homeschooling. Through her journey, she proved to the world that she was not only proud to be a homeschooler but also an inspiring example of how belief and perseverance can overcome even the greatest obstacles.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
在Paris12歲時，她迎著強大的社會壓力及香港對在家教育的普遍質疑，勇敢地創作了一部深具啟發性的短影片。Paris以無比的堅定信念和不懈的努力，專注於我們共同的目標——通過家庭教育考入由大學教育資助委員會（UGC）資助的大學。她憑藉堅韌不拔的毅力和不懈的追求，將香港人的疑慮化為激勵自己的力量，最終在15歲時取得了進入大學的傲人成就！Paris 的成功不僅是個人的成就，更彰顯了在家教育的深遠價值，成為激勵更多香港人勇敢追尋夢想和探索適合自身學習道路的燈塔。她的故事傳遞著堅持、勇氣與希望，啟發每一個渴望突破常規、追求自我實現的心靈。
Homeschooling vs. Traditional Schools in Hong Kong: Which Path Fits Your Child Best?
The debate over homeschooling versus traditional schooling is a nuanced one. When parents approach me with the big question—"Is homeschooling better than traditional schools?"—the answer is rarely straightforward. Both options have unique strengths and challenges, and the "better" choice depends on the individual circumstances of each family and child.
My Transformative Homeschooling Journey: Growth, Discovery, and Empowerment
Over the course of my homeschooling journey, I have transformed from a complete novice to a seasoned homeschool educator and researcher, gaining a profound understanding of its complexities. Homeschooling is more than just an educational choice—it is a shared, lifelong journey of growth and discovery for both the homeschool educator and homeschool student. To me, homeschool education has been a long, transformative process—marked by moments of triumph and adversity, and an ongoing cycle of learning and growth. My journey has been as much about educating others as it has been about my own evolution, embracing each challenge and triumph as a vital step in the process of continuous learning and self-improvement.
My initial chapter in homeschooling, however, is not one I consider entirely successful. While my eldest daughter achieved academic milestones by completing her master’s degree, deeper challenges such as issues with family unity—stemming from unnecessary manipulation and dishonesty—cast a shadow over this experience. These struggles revealed critical gaps in my homeschooling approach and underscored the importance of addressing the root causes of these obstacles. At the outset of my second homeschooling journey, I made the difficult but necessary decision to distance myself from negative family members who perpetuated lies and manipulation—either for personal gain or due to limited awareness and cognitive barriers. This pivotal decision brought clarity to the underlying challenges and set the stage for smoother homeschooling and personal growth.
Through reflection, I realized that my first homeschooling approach lacked critical elements that were essential for success: a unique family culture rooted in love, honesty, and trust; empowerment for the homeschool educator, both financially and academically; and a focus on life education—an approach that teaches the realities and journey of life while fostering happiness and a growth mindset. Armed with these invaluable insights, I embarked on a new homeschooling journey with my second daughter, Paris, and the transformation was extraordinary. I empowered myself both financially and academically, earning two doctoral degrees to strengthen my knowledge and confidence as a homeschool educator and researcher. I established a family culture anchored in love and led by example, creating an environment built on trust and emotional safety. I developed a life education curriculum designed to nurture not only academic excellence but also resilience, joy, and the adaptability required to thrive in an ever-changing world. In this homeschooling journey, I became a powerful tree with rich, flourishing leaves, providing shade and support not only for Paris but also for other homeschooling families, fostering a community rooted in growth and mutual empowerment.
With these foundational elements in place, my second chapter of homeschool education unfolded with ease, harmony, and remarkable outcomes—shaping a truly meaningful and rewarding experience for both Paris and me, and underscoring that homeschooling is not merely a method of education, but a profound and ongoing learning journey for all involved.
Homeschool education, I’ve come to realize, is far more than an academic endeavor—it is a transformative, holistic journey that nurtures values, deepens relationships, and fosters mutual growth between homeschool educators and students. It has the potential to build a strong foundation where homeschool students can thrive—not only as lifelong learners but also as compassionate, capable individuals, equipped to face life’s challenges with confidence and resilience.
Empowering Homeschooling Families: The Vision and Mission of HSA
Homeschool educators, the founding members of the Homeschool Association (HSA), and I are united in our commitment to empowering your homeschooling journey. Together, we aim to provide you with the knowledge, tools, and resources needed to navigate this path confidently and work seamlessly toward your ultimate goals—whether it’s achieving university readiness or nurturing a happy, growth-minded child.
The HSA was formed to address the growing need for a supportive community and accessible guidance for families considering or pursuing homeschooling. Our vision is to build a collaborative network of homeschool educators and families who share expertise, inspire one another, and create a thriving environment for educational innovation and success. Our mission is to serve as a trusted resource, advocating for informed decision-making and supporting families in choosing the best educational pathways for their unique situations.
HAS founding members do not aim to promote homeschooling as superior to traditional schools. The "better" choice depends on the individual circumstances of each family and the distinctive learning style of each child. By fostering an inclusive and balanced perspective, HSA seeks to empower families to make decisions that align with their values and goals, and to approach education with flexibility, creativity, and purpose.
The Case for Homeschooling
Homeschooling shines in its ability to provide unparalleled flexibility. Parents can tailor the curriculum to suit their child’s unique learning style, interests, and pace, fostering a highly personalized educational experience. For some, this environment offers a safe haven, free from bullying or peer pressure often encountered in traditional schools. Homeschooling can also create opportunities for stronger family bonds, as well as the incorporation of values, culture, or faith into the education process.
These aspects make homeschooling a great fit for families seeking a learning path that adapts to their child rather than forcing the child to adapt to the system.
The Strengths of Traditional Schools
Traditional schools in Hong Kong provide a structured, cost-free, and resource-rich environment that is difficult to replicate at home. With access to specialized teachers, diverse extracurricular activities, and opportunities for peer socialization, these schools play a crucial role in fostering both academic and personal growth. For many children, learning alongside peers encourages essential skills such as collaboration, healthy competition, and effective communication—abilities that are vital for success beyond the classroom.
Additionally, traditional schools in Hong Kong ensure consistency and access to facilities and resources that families may find challenging to offer through homeschooling. These strengths make traditional schools a reliable option for providing education to a wide and varied population of students.
Can Homeschooling Replace Traditional Schools in Hong Kong?
While homeschooling can serve as an effective option for certain families, it cannot fully replace traditional schools. In Hong Kong, traditional schools play a pivotal role in providing education to a wide and diverse population, ensuring equitable access to structured learning environments, qualified teachers, and essential resources. These schools are central to the government’s education system, which is designed to uphold consistency and inclusivity across all social and economic groups.
Homeschooling, by contrast, requires a significant level of commitment and expertise from the homeschool educator. It demands not only time and effort but also the ability to learn from setbacks, engage in self-reflection, and strive for continuous self-improvement. Developing the necessary skills for effective homeschooling often involves trial and error, moments of progress and challenge, personal growth, and professional guidance to achieve the desired level of proficiency and success. While homeschooling is recognized in Hong Kong under specific circumstances—such as for children with unique educational and emotional needs—it is generally not promoted as a mainstream alternative to traditional schooling for the whole student population.
That said, homeschooling and traditional schooling can coexist as complementary options for families seeking flexible educational solutions. Some parents opt for hybrid models, combining homeschooling with part-time enrollment in traditional schools or external educational programs. Moreover, homeschooling is not a permanent arrangement; students can return to the traditional school system once they are mentally and physically ready to integrate into the classroom environment.
Ultimately, homeschooling is not intended to replace traditional schools. Instead, it provides an alternative educational pathway for families facing unique situations or challenges. Together, both systems contribute to fostering a more inclusive and adaptive society, accommodating the diverse needs of students in a constantly evolving educational landscape.
The Bottom Line
For families considering homeschooling, it is essential to carefully weigh the pros and cons, assess the child’s unique needs, and determine whether the parent can fully commit to the responsibilities and demands of homeschooling. Education is deeply personal, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution—the ultimate goal is to choose the path that best supports your child’s growth and success.
To sum up, the decision is not about determining which option is inherently better, but about selecting the approach that aligns with the family’s goals, values, and the child’s individual learning style. Both homeschooling and traditional schooling play important roles in the educational landscape, each offering unique opportunities to enrich students’ lives in meaningful and impactful ways.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Celebrating the Heart of Our Homes: Homeschool Educators and Mothers
Today, I had the privilege of speaking to two remarkable homeschool educators, one from Hong Kong and one from the USA. They shared with me a sentiment that resonates with many in their roles as mothers and homeschool educators – a feeling of insignificance. I countered their thoughts, reflecting back with unwavering conviction, "No, you are the most important person in your family and society as you dedicate your entire life to supporting your family and teaching your children to become responsible citizens and loving individuals."
Homeschool educators and mothers, your relentless dedication often goes unnoticed by your friends, neighbors, or even your spouse due to a societal belief that earning money is the most valuable contribution to a family. This perception often leads to an unfortunate undervaluation of the immense work done by homeschool educators and mothers. In Hong Kong culture, you may be labeled as 師奶 (Si Naai), a term laden with negative connotations. Similarly, in Western cultures, the term "housewife" often carries a stigma, implying that the work done at home is less valuable than paid employment outside the home.
As a woman, I deeply understand the immense sacrifice and love that women pour into their families and children. A woman who devotes all her time and effort to nurturing and loving her children deserves the honorable title of "educator" rather than the negative labels of Si Naai or housewife. As homeschool educators, you contribute even more by shouldering the responsibilities of both a mother and a school teacher. Your efforts and dedication should be celebrated by society and your families. This is why, in my first doctorate-level research paper, I chose to honor all homeschool mothers with the title "Homeschool Educators." Friends, you are the educators who help raise responsible, knowledgeable students, making our world a better place to live.
The dilemma faced by housewives in both Hong Kong and Western countries must be reevaluated. We should value the unpaid yet invaluable work done within the home by mothers and homeschool educators. Despite their significant contributions, mothers and homeschool educators often feel undervalued and unappreciated. It's crucial to recognize and celebrate the vital role that mothers and homeschool educators play in shaping the future of our society. By acknowledging their efforts and giving them the respect they deserve, we can foster a more inclusive and appreciative environment for all.
Remember, dear homeschool educators and mothers, you are the heart of your homes, the pillars of our future, and the unsung heroes of our society. Your dedication and love do not go unnoticed, and the impact you have is immeasurable.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
A recent gathering of homeschooling families was held at the Kowloon Hotel.
A Day of Discovery: Homeschoolers Explore the University of Education Hong Kong
The Saturday homeschool visit to the University of Education Hong Kong was both fun and educational. Dr. Dennis Koo assigned two of his students to guide us throughout the day, introducing the university and sharing insights about it. One of the student guides, Hiyori Chan, demonstrated incredible dedication—despite having her viva presentation later that day, she still guided us, leading us to various places on campus. Remarkably, she left us only 15 minutes before her presentation.
Our homeschoolers had a fantastic time engaging in various activities, such as playing games like the bubble game and exploring a history booth to learn about the university's rich heritage. They also won numerous gifts from participating in the games, which brought them so much joy that they were reluctant to leave and wished they had more time to stay.
At one of the booths, I had a meaningful conversation with a student managing the booth. We discussed homeschooling in Hong Kong, and I was deeply impressed by his progressive perspective. He shared that homeschooling should be embraced in Hong Kong, particularly for Special Educational Needs (SEN) students, gifted students, or those who do not thrive in the traditional school system. During our exchange, he asked whether homeschoolers could attend university. I assured him they could and shared a snippet of my daughter’s story—from homeschooling to university at the age of 15, after earning 2A2B in her International A-level exams. He immediately responded, “Wow, I can’t even get this result in my university entrance exams!” He expressed that Hong Kong should follow western countries in openly embracing the development of homeschooling, instead of keeping it under the radar in a discreet manner. His forward-thinking stance was remarkable, especially since homeschooling is not widely accepted in our city. Open-minded attitudes among future educators—trained at the Education University, which plays a vital role in shaping the teachers of our city—remain rare and invaluable.
Additionally, I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to Dr. Dennis Koo for arranging a VIP position for me at the opening ceremony in Block C and for introducing me to his friends—both colleagues and graduates of the university. This trip allowed me to gain deeper insights into Dr. Dennis from the perspectives of his students and friends. Dr. Dennis is a highly senior and respected university teacher whose educational achievements and reputation in the field are truly outstanding. It is clear that he is a leader and a prominent figure in education. I feel immensely honored to have graduated with my Doctorate in Education alongside Dr. Dennis Koo at the same time, from the same university, and at the same ceremony in Europe. Since then, we have become very good friends. Dr. Dennis has been a tremendous supporter of my efforts to develop homeschooling in our city, owing to our close relationship and his understanding of my vision to help homeschool families. His support has been invaluable in my mission to create a more inclusive and adaptive educational system in Hong Kong.
The University of Education Hong Kong, as a nurturing ground for future educators, provides a promising environment for fostering open-mindedness toward homeschooling and its potential development. It was heartening to witness this shift in perspective, as it paves the way for a brighter and more inclusive future for education in our city.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
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Nurturing Hearts, Not Just Minds: A Journey Through Life Education
Many parents celebrate academic achievements as the ultimate measure of success, often emphasizing milestones like university admissions. While I deeply value the joy these accomplishments bring, my pride in homeschooling my daughter, Paris, stems from something far more meaningful. It is not her academic achievements that define my pride, but rather the emotional resilience, happiness, and self-mastery she has developed through my unique curriculum of life education.
Throughout our homeschooling experience, I emphasized teaching Paris the realities of life—helping her embrace its life and academic challenges while maintaining a peaceful, joyful, and resilient mindset. This was achieved through sharing my life experiences, engaging in reflective discussions, and adopting immersive learning methods. At the heart of it all was fostering a detachment and happy mindset —a cornerstone for human growth and happiness. This mindset teaches her to focus on what truly matters, let go of unnecessary emotional burdens, and cultivate balance in the face of adversity.
Life Education in Practice: Paris’s Worldschooling Journey
One of the most impactful experiences was during our time in Scotland, where we explored the breathtaking landscapes and observed the rich diversity of trees and flowers. During my immersive teaching sessions in Scotland, I encouraged Paris to observe the way daisies thrive as small, graceful blooms and how oak trees stand tall as enduring giants—this served as a powerful lesson. The vibrant fields and ancient woodlands of Scotland provided an ideal backdrop for these reflections, grounding the metaphor and reflecting immersive teaching in a tangible and inspiring environment.
This connection to nature not only enhanced the message of life education but also immersed Paris in the living examples of diversity and harmony found in the natural world. It reinforced the idea that whether she is a daisy or an oak tree, her role and contribution are equally significant—just as both are vital to the ecosystem. I taught her that just as each tree and flower grows in its own way, thriving in its specific environment, so too should she carve out her own identity without comparing herself to others. Each type of plant—whether a modest daisy or a grand oak—has its own role and contribution to the planet. Likewise, her life belongs to her, not to others’ expectations. She must listen to her heart, follow her passions, and define success on her own terms.
During this journey, we also discussed how to handle external negativity. I encouraged her to detach from unnecessary criticism and unconstructive comments, reminding her that such negativity stems from others’ limitations, not her own. I emphasized the importance of shedding toxic thoughts and negative energy, and staying true to her own vision. By focusing on her inner strength and values, she can rise above these distractions and live authentically.
The Importance of Life Education
Life education transcends academics—it equips students with the ability to navigate life’s ups and downs while maintaining their emotional and mental well-being. It fosters resilience, empathy, and a joyful outlook on life. These qualities are the foundation of true success and fulfillment. Unfortunately, traditional schools often fall short in this regard, devoting their time and energy to crafting students solely focused on academic achievement. This results in a pressure-cooker learning system that pervades society, creating an educational ecosystem so rigid that it's difficult to break free, especially for students still within the traditional school system in our city.
Thankfully, Paris expressed her desire to be homeschooled, giving us the opportunity to challenge this unyielding educational framework and discover our own equilibrium within the Educational Pendulum—a balance where student happiness meets societal academic expectations. This equilibrium allowed Paris to enjoy a childhood filled with adequate sleep and playtime, something for which she remains grateful to this day. For Paris, understanding life's richness, embracing her individuality, and cultivating a positive mindset have become her greatest accomplishments. Witnessing these achievements fills me with immense pride and reaffirms the transformative power of life education.
Takeaways
Let us not only strive to raise academically accomplished individuals but also nurture students who are happy, resilient, empathetic, and well-grounded. After all, it is not grades or degrees that define us, but how we thrive in life and contribute to the world around us.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Shaping the Future: A Successful Homeschooling Media Interview
The Homeschool Association's media interview with Hong Kong Economic Journal 信報 was a tremendous success today. Special thanks go to Dr. Dennis (former Education Bureau Officer, School Inspector, and current teacher at The Hong Kong Education University), YY (top management of a prominent NGO), Dr. Martina (top management of marketing), and Annie (management of a social center). Through the combined efforts and diverse expertise of this incredible team, we effectively addressed all concerns about homeschooling in Hong Kong, dispelling misconceptions and providing comprehensive insights.
Together, we presented the overarching vision and mission of the Homeschool Association, illustrating how it empowers our city to become a happier, more inclusive, and adaptive international education hub. At the same time, we emphasized our commitment to adhering to government requirements, ensuring that homeschooling standards align with our city's educational expectations. This dual approach reassures stakeholders while advancing our efforts to build a robust and quality-focused homeschool education framework.
The interview was truly an intellectual and engaging experience, conducted in an atmosphere of positivity and collaboration. It also added a touching personal note, as the newspaper reporters—graduates from my daughter's university—contributed to the event. Their presence underscored a sense of university bonding, symbolizing my daughter's inspiring journey from homeschool to university and beyond.
The event stands as a testament to the power of teamwork, vision, and open dialogue, bringing us one step closer to our goal of reshaping education in our beloved city.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Adventures in Learning: The Epic Tale of Homeschooling & Worldschooling vs. Traditional Schooling
Paris (a homeschool student) in Alaska:
Picture Paris, bundled up in a parka, trekking through the snowy wilderness of Alaska. Paris is learning about glaciers by actually touching them and understanding the delicate balance of the ecosystem through encounters with real-life caribou.
Alex(A traditional school student) in the Classroom:
Now, imagine Alex in a classroom, looking at a picture of a glacier in a textbook, while the teacher explains it with a PowerPoint. Alex’s class might even watch a documentary on caribou migration.
Comparison
1) Learning Environment:
Paris: "Whoa, this glacier is huge! And cold! Look, it’s melting right here."
Alex: "So, the textbook says glaciers are large ice masses... Okay, time for the next page."
2)Socialization:
Paris: "Hey there, fellow worldschoolers! Let's make friends with the local kids and learn about their culture and thinking."
Alex: "Hey, Tim, pass me the pencil... What's next period? Math? Yawn."
3) Experiences:
Paris: "This hot chocolate made from fresh Alaskan ingredients is amazing. And those Northern Lights, stunning!"
Alex: "So, the book says the Northern Lights are caused by solar winds. Sounds cool, I guess."
4) Flexibility:
Paris: "Let's visit Denali National Park today and learn about the highest peak in North America!"
Alex: "Okay, our science class is at 10 AM. After that, there's a PE class."
5) Assessment:
Paris: "I've learned so much today! I took notes on glacier formations while standing right next to one."
Alex: "I have to remember these facts for the quiz next week. Hope I don’t forget."
Summary:
Paris’s learning involves immersive experiences, hands-on discovery, and direct interaction with Alaskan nature and culture.
Alex’s learning is structured, involves textbook study , and relies on classroom lectures and media resources.
In both cases, students gain knowledge, but Paris’s journey is filled with real-world adventure, while Alex’s is more traditional and structured. Both have their unique advantages and cater to different learning styles and preferences.
Who knows, perhaps Alex might even get inspired by Paris’s worldschooling stories and dream of his own adventurous learning journey one day!
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Hawaii (On a Worldschooling trip with her daughter, Paris, to Frozen Alaska)
Three delightful homeschool students from Hong Kong took a cheerful selfie, their faces lit up with joyful and playful smiles.
The Inspiring Origin of the Hong Kong Homeschool Association
Years ago, Hong Kong, a vibrant international hub, became a temporary home for adventurous homeschooling families from around the world. Among them was Danielle Jonsson, a courageous and experienced mother who had successfully homeschooled her children, equipping them with confidence and knowledge to thrive. Danielle, a devoted church leader alongside her husband, who hails from Denmark, had traveled to different countries to help establish church systems before settling in Hong Kong.
However, as Danielle immersed herself in her new environment, she quickly encountered a stark reality: homeschooling was not embraced by the city. Instead, it existed in a legal gray area, forcing families to navigate a maze of complex and unclear regulations. Many parents resorted to "stealth homeschooling," quietly educating their children without drawing attention to themselves.
With a deep desire to help, Danielle reached out to her community of homeschooling educators in Hong Kong, seeking advice on who had the vision and strength to lead the advancement of homeschooling in the city. One name repeatedly surfaced—Dr. Vivien Lai, a trailblazer who had successfully guided her own daughter from homeschooling to university and had inspired countless others along the way. Acting on their recommendations, Danielle decided to connect with Dr. Lai and seek her guidance on leading the homeschooling movement to flourish in Hong Kong.
In October 2023, Danielle and Dr. Lai finally met, and it was as if two passionate and determined forces had aligned. They shared their stories, struggles, and aspirations for creating a more supportive and inclusive environment for homeschooling in Hong Kong. Danielle, deeply inspired by Dr. Lai’s remarkable achievements and steadfast commitment to education, encouraged her to step into the role of homeschool leader in Hong Kong. Moved by Danielle’s faith in her and motivated by the opportunity to make a meaningful impact, Dr. Lai embraced the challenge.
Dr. Lai’s leadership quickly turned vision into action. She invited renowned homeschool educators and professors from across the globe to share their expertise at the Homeschool Education Talk (HET). Through social media and personal outreach, she tirelessly connected local families, creating a network of support for those navigating the challenges of homeschooling. Dr. Lai’s efforts brought hope to families, reminding them they were not alone and that change was possible.
Dr. Lai passionately declared, "We unite the support of international educators, professors, homeschool leaders, and key figures, along with the dedication of local families, to realize our vision of empowering Hong Kong with a happier, more inclusive, and adaptable international education system. This is not just about education—it’s about transforming lives and shaping a brighter future for generations to come."
This inspiring story of courage, collaboration, and shared vision reminds us that, even in the face of adversity, with determination and teamwork, we can pave the way for a brighter future.
Originally drafted by Elaine Wong ( A homeschool education in Hong Kong), with the final version authored by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien.
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The Impact of LECS Parents
LECS(Lies, Emotional, Compulsive, Selfish)
1. Lies (L): Parents who use lies and manipulation create a toxic environment of mistrust. Children raised by manipulative parents may struggle to trust others and form healthy relationships. This wrong parental behavior undermines trust and communication, causing conflicts and long-term psychological impacts. For instance, children of manipulative parents may grow up with a distorted sense of reality, struggling to discern truth from deception. The constant drama of lying and manipulation can lead to anxiety, depression, and other emotional issues, hindering children's personal growth and development.
2. Emotional (E): Overly emotional parents create an unpredictable and stressful environment. Children of emotionally unstable parents can develop anxiety, low self-esteem, and difficulty managing their emotions.
3. Compulsive (C): Compulsive parents who are excessively controlling and force their children into rigid routines or decisions stifle their growth and creativity. This can lead to resentment and a lack of fulfillment in the child's life.
4. Selfish (S): Selfish parents prioritize their own needs over their children's well-being, creating a sense of neglect. Children with such parents can feel unloved and develop attachment issues.
These LECS parents fail to understand true parenting, which is to nurture, love, support, and guide their children. The consequences of such parenting can be long-lasting, affecting children's emotional health, self-esteem, and ability to form healthy relationships.
Overall, the ripple effect of LECS parents' behaviors creates instability and suffering within the family unit.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Edinburgh, Scotland
I took Paris on a two-month worldschooling journey to Australia.
The Importance of Building a Strong Family Culture: A Homeschool Leadership Perspective
Effective parenting starts with building a positive family culture. Let me use the acronym FAMILY to illustrate the principles for building a positive family culture:
F - Foster Belonging: A strong family culture creates a sense of belonging and togetherness. It helps family members feel connected and supported, fostering a secure environment where everyone feels valued.
A - Acknowledge Differences: Building a family culture means embracing and appreciating the differences of each family member. It promotes understanding, respect, and acceptance, creating a harmonious and inclusive environment.
M - Model Values and Genuine Family Love: Family culture establishes shared values that guide behavior and decision-making. It helps to instill important family and life principles. For example, our family values include no lying, no manipulation, and being our authentic selves at home. Another value our family has established is that when emotions rise, regardless of who is right or wrong, one person must say "sorry," and the other must respond, "I am sorry too." This is followed by a smile and a hug, letting negative emotions go. Family means genuine love and forgiveness, focusing on resolution rather than placing blame.
I - Inspire Open Communication: A positive family culture encourages open and honest communication. It allows family members to express themselves, share their thoughts, and resolve conflicts effectively, leading to stronger relationships.
L - Lead by Example: Parents must lead by example, build trust, and set a strong foundation for integrity and respect. It's crucial to maintain honesty and avoid manipulation. While parents may fool their children for a period, a lie is a lie, and manipulation is manipulation. When the truth is discovered, you risk losing all the respect and love from your children. Another aspect of leading by example is maintaining a calm and peaceful parenting style. Even during challenging times, homeschool educators must remain calm and model positive behaviors. In fact, when faced with difficulties, sometimes it's best to do nothing—stop, pause, and calm. A calm mind will eventually find a solution to the problem.
Y - Yield Happiness and a Growth Mindset: A well-defined family culture nurtures happiness and a growth mindset in each family member. It encourages children to embrace challenges and learn from setbacks, ultimately building confidence and perseverance.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Istanbul
About eight years ago, Paris and a group of fellow homeschool students gathered in a library in Hong Kong for a shared reading session.
The River of Life (Maiandros): Why Life Education Matters in Parenting
This morning, I had an enriching conversation with Dr. Martina, one of the founding members of the Hong Kong Homeschool Association , about my 24-year journey as a homeschool educator. I described my homeschooling experience as riding an exhilarating roller coaster, full of ups and downs. These challenging moments taught me the importance of integrating life education into my homeschooling approach and empowered me to be a wise homeschool educator and leader.
Maiandros: In Greek culture, the "Maiandros" pattern symbolizes the flowing and winding nature of a river, which metaphorically represents life's journey with its ups and downs. This ancient Greek pattern emphasizes the idea that progress and growth are not always straightforward but filled with curves and bends, much like the path of a meandering river. In addition, Maiandros beautifully illustrates the importance of embracing a growth and happy mindset.
A happy and growth-oriented mindset is essential for our children's development, helping them navigate life changes independently and positively.
During our worldschooling trip to Australia, we sat beside a tranquil river, where I used the ancient Greek word "Maiandros" to teach my daughter, Paris, the timeless wisdom of the Greek people. The serene setting was perfect for explaining the ebb and flow of life and the importance of maintaining a positive outlook.
Me: "Paris, take a moment to observe the flow of the river. Notice how it winds and twists, always finding its path forward. Now, take a look at the Maiandros necklace I bought for you in Greece. Do you remember what I taught you about life and the mindset you should use to face life's uncertainties?"
Paris: "Yes, I remember. You taught me that life is like a river, with its inevitable twists and turns. The Maiandros symbolizes this, showing that progress isn't always straightforward but full of curves and bends."
Me: "Exactly, Paris. Just like the river and the Maiandros pattern, our journey through life will have ups and downs, unexpected twists, and sometimes, obstacles. But it's important to remember that these challenges are part of our growth."
Paris: "So, it's important to keep a positive mindset even when things get tough?"
Me: "Yes, a happy and growth-oriented mindset is crucial. It helps us navigate life's difficulties with resilience and grace. When we maintain a positive outlook, we're better equipped to adapt and find solutions, much like the river flows around obstacles."
Paris: "Mum, this mindset will help me in both life and academics, right?"
Me: "Absolutely! This mindset will empower you to tackle any challenge, whether it's in school or in life. Remember, just as the river flows continuously, you have the strength and ability to keep moving forward, no matter what."
Conclusion: Academic achievement is important, but nurturing a happy and growth-oriented mindset is equally vital.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
A gathering of homeschooling families in a park in Hong Kong.
The Pendulum of Education: A Call for Reflection
Imagine a pendulum swinging between two sides. On the right, we have traditional schooling, and on the left, homeschooling. Our culture and societal mindset often dictate that when children reach school age, they must attend conventional schools. Yet, despite this norm, a significant number of homeschoole students exist silently in Hong Kong and Mainland China.
Educational leaders, have you ever paused to ponder this? Have you ever reflected on our current educational system and questioned why these homeschooling families choose to forgo free schooling and bear the full costs of education themselves?
As a homeschool educator, homeschool leader, and homeschool researcher, I understand the immense pressures within our country's educational system, especially in primary and secondary schools. The intense, high-stakes learning environment often drives families to the other side of the pendulum—homeschooling. This alternative path allows homeschool students to free up their time and pursue happiness in both life and learning.
The Pendulum of Homeschool Education: Balancing Happiness & Structure for Success
When parents choose to homeschool, they often find themselves unskilled or unfamiliar with the structure and pedagogy of homeschool education. In their quest for guidance, many parents turn to the internet, reading countless articles or connecting with the homeschooling community for advice and help. However, due to a lack of comprehensive understanding of homeschooling methodologies, many homeschool educators struggle and experience dissatisfaction in their efforts.
I have witnessed numerous homeschool educators in our country grappling with these challenges. Many homeschooling families lack a structured curriculum, making it difficult for homeschooled students to balance happiness and effective learning outcomes.
Imagine a pendulum. On the right side, it represents the daily happiness of homeschool students, while the left side represents a well-structured, tailor-made homeschool learning system. Many unskilled homeschool educators tend to swing towards the right side of the pendulum, focusing primarily on the daily happiness of their homeschooling students. As a result, these students often lack the necessary academic knowledge when compared to their peers in traditional schools.
Homeschool educators, have you ever paused to reflect on the best position of the pendulum for homeschool education? Striking the right balance is crucial. While ensuring that homeschool students are happy is important, it is equally critical to provide a structured curriculum that prepares them for future academic and life challenges, and helps them reach their ultimate homeschool destination, university.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei in Texas, USA
Homeschool educators in Mainland China prioritize fostering students' happiness and emotional well-being, offering a refreshing alternative to the rigorous homework and study demands of traditional schooling.
The Lotus Blooms Most Beautifully from the Deepest and Thickest Mud
Homeschool educators, have you ever wondered why we face certain challenges in homeschooling and life? Why do we encounter obstacles that seem insurmountable at times? Could these very challenges be the ones that shape us into stronger, wiser individuals?
After 24 years on my homeschooling journey, I've come to see homeschooling as a grand adventure, teeming with a range of experiences—highs and lows, joy and sorrow, beauty and challenges. It’s this rich tapestry of moments that makes homeschooling truly remarkable.
There was a time when I faced obstacles during my homeschooling journey—feeling unhappy and questioning why I encountered unpleasant people who lied, manipulated, and caused me suffering. However, I've overcome my cognitive barriers and gained new insights by understanding Buddha's Lotus teaching concept. Now, I understand that without these people challenging me, I wouldn’t have the splendid homeschooling journey or the knowledge and wisdom I possess today.
"The lotus flower blooms most beautifully from the deepest and thickest mud." In Buddhist philosophy, the lotus flower is a powerful symbol of purity, enlightenment, self-regeneration, and rebirth. The flower grows in muddy waters but blooms with remarkable beauty above the surface, untouched by the dirt. The muddy water symbolizes our homeschooling challenges and sufferings of life. Despite these adversities, the lotus rises above the mud, symbolizing the homeschool educator's journey towards enlightenment and spiritual awakening. This metaphor illustrates that without facing homeschooling and life's difficulties and challenges (the mud), a homeschool educator cannot achieve true wisdom, growth, and enlightenment (the blooming lotus).
Homeschool educators, embrace your homeschooling journey and cherish both the good and bad experiences. Remember that the beauty of homeschool education lies in the process and the experiences gained, not just the destination. By embracing our homeschooling journey, we can transform it into a path of continuous learning and enlightenment.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Girl Scout Troop 50, composed of homeschool students, based in Hong Kong.
The Harmonious Path: Balancing Freedom and Structure in Homeschool Education!
Finding the right balance in homeschooling resembles the equilibrium of a pendulum, where happiness and flexibility coexist with a structured curriculum aimed at university admissions. As Buddha wisely noted, the string of a musical instrument must not be pulled too tightly or left too slack; it is in this state of equilibrium that the most harmonious sound is produced.
Similarly, in homeschooling, striking the right balance is essential for fostering a stimulating learning environment. Too much rigidity can stifle creativity and joy, while excessive leniency can hinder academic progress. By embracing this principle of balance, homeschool educators can create an educational experience that nurtures happiness, personal growth and academic achievement, ultimately guiding homeschool students toward their final destination, university.
Written By Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in San Francisco, USA.
Homeschooling in Malaysia was officially recognized under the Education Act of 1996. Shown here is a group of homeschool students engaged in their studies at a Malaysian homeschool center.
The Essence of My True Happiness
For me, happiness is profoundly connected to my daughter Paris's joy and witnessing her genuinely achieve a state of happiness and contentment.
My happiness also lies in seeing the Hong Kong Homeschool Association flourish. There is a deep sense of fulfillment in giving back to the community I love and seeing homeschool students and families embrace and benefit from our teamwork and contributions.
Furthermore, the happiness of homeschool students and their families, as they thrive in an environment that supports and celebrates their unique paths, brings me immense joy.
Ultimately, seeing the joy of homeschool families and knowing that our team's efforts make a positive impact on our city brings me the greatest satisfaction and purpose in life. This collective happiness fills my heart and drives me forward.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei in Edinburgh, Scotland
In November 2024, Kelly Fung conducted an interview with a homeschooling family for the South China Morning Post's Young Post.
Homeschool Educators: A Journey Towards Sustainability and Community Spirit
Homeschool educators, I am delighted to announce that the Homeschool Association has officially been granted an NGO license. This milestone marks an exciting beginning for us as a formal non-profit organization. At this point, I have been personally funding the setup and operations of the association. However, this commitment is not a reflection of financial abundance—it is rooted in my deep love and passion for helping homeschool community establish the foundational infrastructure that will benefit homeschooling families now and for generations to come.
YY, one of our founding members, rightly pointed out the need to develop a business income stream to ensure the sustainability of our homeschool developments. He also expressed his concern that my continuous financial support may not be fair or healthy for me in the long term. I deeply appreciate YY's friendship, care, and foresight in addressing this issue. To create a sustainable path forward, I have contributed 12 educational products to the Homeschool Association. During this trip, we discussed strategies to pitch these products in the mainland Chinese market, and our conversations were filled with intellectually stimulating and practical business strategies. I am confident these ideas will pave the way for a sustainable and impactful future.
Building Community Spirit
Another crucial aspect I aim to lead within our homeschool community is fostering a stronger sense of "we"—a collective spirit that prioritizes collaboration and shared goals over individual interests. Currently, our community often operates with a sense of "I." I recognize that building a genuine community spirit takes time, and as your leader, I am committed to patiently guiding you towards a shared vision of collaboration and unity.
A particularly profound moment for me came during my visit to Edinburgh, where I participated in a city council meeting. I witnessed university professors, community leaders, and industry leaders working together selflessly, putting aside personal interests in favor of contributing their efforts, connections, and resources for the greater good of their city. This experience fundamentally shifted my perspective and inspired me to become a more visionary leader—one who can cultivate the "we" and community spirit in all of us.
Homeschool educators, our homeschool community thrives on collaboration and collective spirit, and by embracing this within the homeschool community, we can set a powerful example for future generations. With the sense of "we" at the heart of our efforts, we can create an inclusive and thriving homeschool community that not only benefits its members but also serves as a shining model for others to follow.
Written By Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien
教育是讓生命自由快樂地成長 | Education: Letting Life Grow Freely and Joyfully
Three days spent visiting homeschool educators in the Greater Bay Area marked a wonderful and inspiring conclusion to my journey.
I had the privilege of hearing diverse and compelling stories shared by passionate educators across my country. Despite the varied motivations behind families choosing homeschooling, there remains one unifying principle: letting life grow freely and joyfully while finding balance in what I call the Education Pendulum —a harmonious equilibrium between academic achievement and personal growth.
An Urgent Call for Reflection
To all educators: if you truly listen to the voices of children and parents, now is the time to critically reflect on your educational and teaching approaches. Education should not simply adhere to rigid teaching schedules and standardized assessments imposed by schools. Instead, it must prioritize the cultivation of a "healthy and happy mindset" in students—empowering them to grow into thriving, confident, and unique individuals. Without embracing flexibility, we risk pushing young minds into a narrow, one-size-fits-all academic mold—a practice destined to hinder creativity, happiness, passion, and individuality.
Written By Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien (A homeschool researcher, author and educator in Hong Kong )
A homeschool family in Mainland China
Innovation and Education: A Day of Service Robots and Homeschooling Unity
I had the privilege of visiting a service robot company in Guangzhou. It was truly fascinating to witness the wide array of robots performing diverse functions across various industries. Observing how these robots, designed and developed by Chinese engineers, seamlessly operate in different service fields filled me with immense pride in our nation's ingenuity and technological advancements. I want to express my heartfelt thanks to 羅兆恒 and 吳明城, two brilliant service robot engineers, for their detailed elaboration of the service robot tour. Their insights allowed me to learn so much about how these fascinating robots work, not only within our country but also on a global scale.
The day continued with a wonderful opportunity to connect with homeschool educators from the Guangzhou area. Our conversations were deeply insightful, helping me understand their unique educational needs and challenges. These discussions reaffirmed the mission of our association—to empower homeschool educators and families not just academically, but also emotionally, ensuring they lead fulfilling and happy lives.
This day has inspired me to work even harder to fulfill our vision of creating a supportive, innovative, and impactful homeschooling community for the benefit of society. Let us move forward together to make homeschooling a source of joy and empowerment for all!
Written By Dr Lai Mei Kei in Guangzhou, Mainland China
The Homeschool Association's slogan, "Connect, Unite, Empower," was crafted by Dr. Lai.
The Origin of the Homeschool Association Slogan and Logo
The Homeschool Association's slogan, "Connect, Unite, Empower", encapsulates Dr. Lai's vision for building a strong and prosperous homeschooling community in Hong Kong. When Dr. Lai conceived this slogan, she reflected on the challenges faced by homeschooling families at the time. Many families were engaged in "stealth homeschooling," avoiding connections with one another. A sense of unity was also absent, as most homeschooling families were not united and failed to recognize the power that comes from solidarity.
Dr. Lai firmly believed that fostering connection and unity was the key to empowering homeschooling families. This empowerment would facilitate knowledge exchange and drive advancements in homeschooling practices across Hong Kong. These principles inspired her to craft the impactful slogan, "Connect, Unite, Empower."
Dr. Lai chose green as the defining color for the slogan and logo due to its symbolic meaning. Green represents nature, growth, harmony, balance, prosperity, and cultural diversity—all of which perfectly align with the Association’s goals and Dr. Lai’s mission to nurture a thriving and cohesive homeschooling community in Hong Kong.
By combining this slogan with the vibrant symbolism of green, Dr. Lai set a powerful foundation for the Homeschool Association to inspire and unite families throughout the city.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Empowering Homeschool Educators: Leading with Vision and Purpose
Today, I had the opportunity to travel to the Greater Bay Area to meet with homeschool educators from mainland China. One of the educators even flew in from Beijing to join me. We had a truly engaging conversation, during which I gained deeper insights into the motivations behind homeschooling in China.
During my visit, I was invited to the home of Lawyer, a fellow homeschool educator. His house was incredibly impressive, featuring an array of luxury cars and, most fascinating of all, his private large museum. The museum was vast and filled with an extraordinary collection of antiques, jade artifacts, ginseng, and more—a true treasure trove of cultural and historical significance.
As a researcher, this visit sparked some playful thoughts about redefining the motivations for homeschooling—perhaps for the super-rich, where their children never have to worry about life’s uncertainties. Just kidding, of course! However, Lawyer Chung did seek my advice on how to homeschool effectively, ensuring that his son can enjoy a fulfilling childhood while remaining academically capable.
This conversation reaffirmed my commitment to my homeschool leadership thesis. I am determined to identify and share the most effective leadership styles for homeschooling educators—those that not only promote academic excellence but also nurture children’s well-being and holistic development. By doing so, I hope to make a meaningful contribution to the homeschooling community and, ultimately, to society.
Written By Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Greater Bay Area, Mainland China
Dr. Lai visited homeschool educators in mainland China to conduct her homeschool leadership research. Furthermore, she toured a service robotics company to investigate the latest advancements in the field. Her aim was to bridge on-the-job learning opportunities for homeschool students and seek potential business collaborations for the Homeschool Association, creating new prospects for the Hong Kong homeschool community in mainland China.
Apples, Oranges, Grapes, and Cherries: Celebrating the Fruitful Diversity of Educational Choices
Yesterday, I had my first lesson with an A-level student, nearly 17 years old, who attends an international school in Mainland China. His mother, aware of my expertise in personalized teaching, sought my assistance to help her son overcome his academic challenges and secure a future university placement. During our initial lesson, I started with a standard assessment, beginning with a quadratic equation. To my surprise, he did not know the concept of quadratic equations, so I switched to linear equations instead. Unfortunately, he made significant errors, indicating a lack of understanding of the basics. Consequently, I focused on foundational concepts, starting with simple equations like 2x+6= 8, and gradually moved towards more complex linear equations.
Longstanding misconceptions about homeschool students persist in our city. Many stereotype them as academically inferior, assuming that school attendance naturally equates to superior academic performance compared to their homeschooled peers. Is this perception truly justified? Absolutely not. Another widespread misconception is that homeschool students lack social skills because they do not interact with peers in a traditional school setting. But is socialization really confined to school environments alone? Not at all. Socialization happens in everyday life, and homeschool students often engage with a diverse range of people, broadening their social horizons far beyond the traditional school environment.
In Hong Kong, whenever a homeschool student mentions their schooling choice to friends, the typical response is often skepticism—both friends and their parents question this homeschool student’s academic and social abilities. They claim that only schools can provide children with these capabilities. But is this belief grounded in reality, or is it merely a product of limited understanding? Is it possible that cognitive barriers are preventing people from recognizing the unique benefits of homeschooling?
We should strive to dispel these two major misunderstandings in Hong Kong and support the development of homeschooling, alongside other educational choices. Just as we choose different fruits—apples (traditional schools), oranges (international schools), grapes (overseas studies), and cherries (homeschooling)—each option offers unique benefits and suits the needs of the individual who chooses it. Criticizing someone's choice of education system is like denouncing their preference for a particular fruit. Instead of targeting differences, let's celebrate them and support the growth of homeschooling as a legitimate and valuable educational choice in our beloved city, Hong Kong.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Homeschool students from Hong Kong participated in Girl Scout activities held in our city.
Faith Led Journey: I Am Proud to Be a Homeschool Leader Shaping the Path for Other Homeschool Educators
"Embrace the obstacles that challenge you, for they shape your character and empower you to become your best self, uncovering the true essence of life." Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
This morning, I received a heartfelt message from a homeschool educator in mainland China seeking advice on a life issue. After some back and forth, I realized she was in a very sad mood. I decided to call her, and we ended up having a wonderful chat. I listened to her life story, provided practical advice, and discussed her two children's homeschooling journey. I assured her that I would meet her children online, assess their academic standards, and then create a tailor-made homeschooling plan to address their needs and solve her worries.
Last night, a math teacher and homeschool educator from mainland China reached out to me for advice on tutoring his new student for A-level math. I guided him step by step, assisting in analyzing and creating a tailor-made learning system suited to his student's needs. This approach aims to ensure the student's progress towards the A-level examination, with the ultimate goal of university admission. I also explained the A-level learning and examination system, as well as the university application process, to this homeschool educator.
Life is indeed a journey filled with its fair share of peaks and valleys. I am grateful for the blessing of a challenging life journey, as it has enabled me to pass even the most difficult tests with distinction. These experiences have been instrumental in shaping my mindset, allowing me to emerge as an inspiring leader in the homeschool community. I am passionately dedicated to empowering homeschool educators, helping them navigate and overcome both educational and life challenges.
Looking back, I'm grateful for the rough paths I've walked, as they have elevated my mental strength and academic abilities. Homeschool educators, the obstacles that don't defeat you are the ones that shape you and empower you to become the best version of yourself, ultimately revealing the true meaning of life.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
For example, two homeschooled students in Hong Kong enjoyed immersing themselves in their books while relaxing in a small park.
CICADA: Embracing the Gold Cicada Law (全蝉定律) in The Homeschool and Life Journey
Homeschool educators, do you ever find yourself wishing for a shortcut to success? Can you imagine the satisfaction of overcoming challenges and emerging stronger? These are essential questions for homeschool educators, as the journey to success is rarely straightforward.
全蝉定律 (Gold Cicada Law): The Gold Cicada Law beautifully illustrates my growth journey, emphasizing patience, resilience, never giving up, and continuous improvement. Let me share a specific example from my homeschool and life journey to illustrate these principles in action.
C - Commitment to Growth: Just like the cicada's long period of growth underground, I am committed to my personal and professional development as a homeschool educator and leader. By pursuing dual doctorates in Education and Business Administration, I equipped myself with the knowledge and skills needed to excel.
I - Inner Strength: Facing numerous homeschooling and life challenges, such as balancing responsibilities as the sole homeschool teacher of my daughter, being the breadwinner, and being a continuous learner, requires immense inner strength and resilience. Like the cicada enduring harsh conditions underground, I persevered through obstacles, viewing each challenge as a life test and equipping myself to pass them. Each challenge overcome not only helped me surmount cognitive barriers but also led me to become a better version of myself.
C - Continuous Improvement: My homeschooling and life journey embodies continuous improvement and a steadfast commitment to serving as a positive role model for my daughter, Paris, and the homeschool community. Much like the cicada's life cycle, my path is unique and ever-evolving. Embracing this unique journey, I authored a book titled A Qualitative Study Of The Motivations, Challenges, Methodologies And Impacts Of Homeschooling Undertaken By A Homeschool Educator In Hong Kong. This work showcases my insights and approaches to homeschool education, and serves as a comprehensive guide for the Hong Kong Homeschool Community.
A - Achievement and Transformation: My dedication paid off when my Paris successfully transitioned from homeschooling to a university in our city. This transformation is akin to the cicada emerging as an adult, ready to take flight.
D - Dedication to Lifelong Learning: My journey didn’t end with Paris’s transition to university. I remain dedicated to inspiring and empowering other homeschooling families through my research, writing, and community involvement. This commitment to lifelong learning and giving back to society mirrors the cicada's ongoing transformation. There's a profound satisfaction in knowing that we continue to evolve, learn, and contribute to the community throughout our lives.
A - Adaptability and Acceptance: Embracing the challenges and changes in homeschooling and life requires adaptability and acceptance. Just as the cicada adapts to its environment, I have learned to navigate the homeschooling and life landscape with a positive, happy, resilient spirit.
Conclusion: Homeschool educators, embrace the challenges along the way. Setbacks and obstacles are the beautiful stepping stones that life and nature provide to help us overcome cognitive barriers as well as empower us to become the best versions of ourselves.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Homeschool students are just like traditional school students. They build beautiful friendships, enjoy playful moments with their friends, and take selfies to embrace the societal trends of the moment.
Cooking Up Resilience: A Tasty Lesson on Mindset and Stress with Homeschool Students
Just like different foods react differently to boiling water, our homeschool students react differently to stress and obstacles. Let’s dive into this delicious analogy and learn some life lessons along the way! Here are real-life examples of how homeschool students deal with stress, inspired by different food types:
Chocolate: The Melter Example: Imagine a homeschool student facing the stress of university entrance exams. They might feel overwhelmed and start to “melt” under the pressure. However, they channel this stress into productive study sessions, using the pressure to focus and absorb information more effectively. Just like melted chocolate can be turned into a delicious sauce, their stress helps them achieve a sweet outcome—good grades to get into university.
Eggs: The Solidifier Example: Consider a homeschool student training for a big competition. The intense training and high expectations can be stressful, but instead of crumbling, they become more determined and disciplined. The stress solidifies their resolve, much like how boiling water turns eggs firm. They emerge stronger and more prepared for the competition.
Potatoes: The Softener Example: Imagine a homeschool educator working with a homeschool student who struggles with learning difficulties. The constant stress and emotional strain of finding effective teaching methods can soften the homeschool educator’s heart, making them more empathetic and compassionate. Just as boiling softens potatoes, the homeschool educator’s experiences make them more understanding and patient, enhancing their ability to provide personalized and effective education. The homeschool student, in turn, benefits from this nurturing environment, feeling supported and encouraged to overcome their challenges.
Gelatin: The Transformer Example: Picture a homeschool educator facing the stress of a challenging curriculum. Instead of giving up, they dissolve their rigid teaching methods and adapt to new educational strategies. Like gelatin setting into a new shape, they transform their teaching approach, leading to innovation and eventual success.
Butter: The Melter and Mixer Example: Imagine a homeschool student working on a complex project. The stress could cause them to "melt," but they use this as an opportunity to blend their skills with those of their peers or family members. By fostering collaboration and unity, they create a harmonious and productive learning environment, much like how melted butter enhances the flavor of a dish.
Ice: The Giver-Upper Example: Now, let’s talk about Frost, a homeschool student who feels completely overwhelmed by the demands of a new curriculum. The stress is too much, and he starts to feel like he’s giving up, much like ice melting away in boiling water. But instead of disappearing, Frost decides to take a step back, cool down, and seek support from his family and fellow homeschoolers. With their help, he regains his strength and tackles the project with renewed energy.
Homeschool educators and homeschool students, which of these examples resonates most with you? Which of these examples do you aspire to be?
Conclusion
These examples illustrate that stress can be a catalyst for growth and positive change, depending on how we handle it. By understanding our reactions and learning to adapt, we can transform stressful situations into opportunities for personal and professional development. Homeschool educators and homeschool students, remember: your mind decides your attitude, your attitude decides your actions, and your actions decide the outcome. It’s a chain reaction. A resilient and growth mindset is essential for a successful homeschool leader, leading your homeschool students to the end of their homeschooling journey—university.
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Let’s teach our homeschool students how to handle stress in a fun and delicious way!
Cooking Challenge: Pick one of the foods mentioned and cook it while thinking about how your homeschool students handle stress. Share your thoughts and your dish with your homeschool students!
Discussion with your homeschool students: How do you usually react to stress? Which food analogy fits you best? How can you use this understanding to improve your mindset? Make the lesson about stress happen in different situations of homeschool students. End with a fun lesson to teach homeschool students how to handle stress and develop a happy and growth-oriented mindset.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Homeschool students participated in a field trip to visit the Sha Tin Sewage Treatment Works, located at 87 Ma Ling Path, Sha Tin District, Hong Kong. This facility is one of the largest secondary sewage treatment plants in Hong Kong and serves as an educational site for understanding sewage treatment processes and environmental sustainability.
Breaking Out of the Fixed Mindset: Why Homeschooling Isn’t Just for the “Rebels” in Hong Kong?
When I was in Miami, I had the opportunity to attend a talk by an author who discussed his book on fixed and growth mindsets. His speech left a lasting impression on me, adding new layers to my understanding of these concepts. It was fascinating to delve deeper into how a fixed mindset, which sees abilities and intelligence as static, contrasts with a growth mindset, which views them as qualities that can be developed through effort and learning.
At the end of his talk, I asked him how I could educate people with a fixed mindset and empower them to develop a growth mindset. He answered that the only way is through education and leading by example. This experience at the Miami book fair broadened my perspective and enriched my approach to homeschool education and leadership.
Inspired by his words, I began writing articles on LinkedIn, drawing from my homeschooling and parenting knowledge, and sharing my 24 years of homeschooling experience, as well as my expertise in the homeschooling field. My aim is to educate and lead by example to bring positive change to my city and convince Hong Kongers to embrace the development of homeschool education in our city.
My efforts may seem minimal, but with continuous dedication, I believe that one day I can change the mindset of certain individuals in my city. This is my way of contributing back to the society and the city (Hong Kong) I love.
I vividly recall when I first decided to homeschool my daughter, Paris. The reactions from most Hong Kong locals were, let's just say, quite colorful. They immediately jumped to the conclusion that Paris must be a bad student, playing truant and lacking social skills. It was as if homeschooling was synonymous with delinquency in their minds. This type of thinking, my friends, is what we call a fixed mindset.
You see, people with a fixed mindset often believe that abilities and intelligence are static—they can't be changed or developed. Carol S. Dweck, the psychologist who coined the term, explains in her book "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success" that "In a fixed mindset, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence or talent instead of developing them."
So, when they encountered the concept of homeschooling, they defaulted to their preconceived notions. To them, homeschooling was something for kids who couldn't cut it in traditional schools, rather than a valid and enriching educational choice.
The reality, however, is far more exciting and diverse. Homeschooling offers a plethora of benefits. It allows for personalized learning, where each child's unique needs, learning styles, and paces are catered to. It's not about escaping the school system; it's about crafting an educational experience that truly fits the child. Additionally, personalized teaching can significantly reduce the daily workload for students, especially those with special learning needs and interests, making education more efficient and enjoyable for them.
And let's talk about socialization. Contrary to the fixed mindset's belief, homeschooled children often have rich social lives, interacting with a variety of age groups and engaging in diverse activities. It's not about isolation—it's about broadening horizons.
Moreover, homeschooling fosters holistic development. It goes beyond academics, nurturing life skills, emotional well-being, and moral values. It's about raising well-rounded individuals who are prepared for all facets of life, not just exams.
So, here we were, navigating through the misconceptions with a smile. Paris was thriving, and I was confident in our choice, despite the raised eyebrows and whispers. I couldn't help but reflect on this: why is it that some people cling so tightly to outdated stereotypes? Maybe it's because stepping outside the conventional box requires a bit of bravery and a lot of open-mindedness.
To those with a fixed mindset, I say this: It's time to broaden your perspective. Embrace the possibilities that alternative education paths like homeschooling offer. After all, education isn't a one-size-fits-all scenario. It's as diverse as the students it serves. So, let's celebrate that diversity, and who knows, maybe you'll find that homeschooling is not just for the “rebels” but for those daring enough to pursue the best education for their unique children.
Now, my daughter, Paris, is 17 and has successfully transitioned from homeschooling to university. She’s in her third year, thriving in an environment that embraces her unique learning journey. When Hong Kongers hear about her successful homeschooling story, they celebrate her achievements. After all, post-COVID, many have begun to understand more about homeschooling, having journeyed through three years of online learning themselves.
But, alas, there are still some traditional teachers who feel the need to rain on our parade. “Studying is not just about excelling in education; it’s about socialization,” they proclaim, as if they’ve uncovered some universal truth. Their fixed mindset insists that children who attend school are social butterflies, while homeschooled children are awkward loners. It’s almost comical how they twist themselves into knots to reject the idea of homeschooling.
These folks seem to need a reality check: social skills aren’t magically granted by school walls. The assumption that homeschooling equals social deprivation is a myth that’s long overdue for debunking. Ironically, these very critics are the ones clinging to an outdated notion, refusing to open their minds to the benefits of homeschooling.
So, here’s a bit of reflection for them: What if we accepted that education can take many forms, and that all paths, including homeschooling, can lead to well-rounded, socially adept individuals? Maybe, just maybe, it’s time to embrace the diverse educational choices available and stop letting old prejudices cloud our judgment.
After all, isn’t education about preparing our children for a diverse, ever-changing world? Let’s celebrate all forms of learning and support our children in whichever path helps them thrive.
Remember, every child is unique, just like the different kinds of trees that uniquely exist in a forest. Some trees need lots of sunlight, while others thrive in the shade. Some need rich, loamy soil, while others flourish in rocky, well-drained earth. Each type of tree requires specific conditions to grow strong and healthy.
Similarly, each child needs a unique educational environment to truly blossom. Just as we wouldn't force a shade-loving tree into the scorching sun, we shouldn't force every child into a one-size-fits-all education system. Let’s celebrate the uniqueness of each child and provide the tailored nutrients—whether it be homeschooling, traditional schooling, or any other form of education—that empower them to grow and thrive.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
My daughter, Paris, and a group of Western homeschooling students were enjoying a camping trip together at a campsite in Hong Kong about eight years ago.
Finding Purpose: Aligning Interests with School and Work
Parents often complain that their children don't like going to school. But have they ever asked themselves: do they enjoy going to work every day? When children don’t find intrinsic motivation in their schoolwork, they may become disengaged and resistant to learning. Similarly, adults who lack intrinsic motivation in their jobs often feel unfulfilled and disinterested in their work. Adults work out of necessity, to earn a living and fulfill societal expectations. The same goes for children—they attend school because it's a societal requirement.
Consider a child who is passionate about art but finds the standard curriculum dull and uninspiring. They may struggle to find motivation to engage in subjects they find irrelevant to their interests in the traditional school learning environment. On the other hand, an adult working in a job that doesn't align with their passions might feel a similar lack of motivation, going through the motions just to pay the bills.
Take the example of John, who works as an accountant. He finds his job monotonous and unfulfilling, but he stays because he needs the paycheck. Similarly, his son, Tim, feels the same way about school. Tim loves to tinker with gadgets and dreams of becoming an engineer, but he finds his schoolwork tedious and unrelated to his interests. Both John and Tim are caught in a cycle of obligation rather than passion.
It's essential for both parents and educators to recognize that intrinsic motivation is key to genuine engagement. By fostering environments where children and adults alike can pursue their interests and passions, we can cultivate a more motivated and fulfilled society.
Parents, so next time when you feel that your children don't want to go to school, don't complain and blame. Instead, find the root cause and address it accordingly. Understanding and solving the underlying issues can make a significant difference in their motivation and engagement.
Solutions for Children Disliking School:
1.Personalized and Flexible Teaching Methods: Customize learning experiences based on each child's interests and strengths, utilizing adaptable teaching techniques. For instance, if a child loves art, incorporate artistic projects into their lessons to make learning more engaging. Flexible teaching methods allow educators to adjust their approach based on the child's learning style and pace, ensuring a more effective and enjoyable educational experience.
2. Encourage Exploration: Allow children to explore different subjects and activities to empower them to discover their passions.
3. Positive Reinforcement: Celebrate achievements and progress, no matter how small. Positive reinforcement can boost their confidence and motivation to continue learning.
4. Connect Learning to Real Life: Show children how their schoolwork applies to real-world situations. For example, explain how math is used in cooking or budgeting. Worldschooling takes this concept a step further by integrating travel and exploration into the learning process. By experiencing different cultures, languages, and environments firsthand, children can gain a deeper understanding of the world around them. Worldschooling allows children to learn history by visiting historical sites, understand geography by exploring diverse landscapes, and develop language skills through immersion in different linguistic environments. This approach not only makes learning more engaging but also fosters a global perspective and adaptability in children.
5. Create a Supportive Environment: Provide emotional support and encouragement. A positive and nurturing environment can help children feel more motivated and engaged.
But what if there was a way to address all these solutions effectively? Homeschooling offers an answer to the root causes of disengagement in education. By customizing the learning experience to fit each child's unique interests and strengths, homeschooling can ignite their passion for learning. This alternative education method allows children to explore various subjects, connect learning to real life, and receive positive reinforcement in a supportive environment. Therefore, we should embrace the development of homeschooling as a viable and beneficial alternative to traditional schooling. This approach promotes a more motivated and fulfilled generation of learners, accommodating the unique needs of individual students.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
A few years ago, a homeschool student study group held regular learning sessions at the apartment of one of the homeschoolers in Discovery Bay.
Creating a Harmonious Home: The Power of Positive Homeschool and Family Culture
Today, Paris and I shared a simple noodle meal at Tam Jai, but we were both incredibly happy, cherishing the quality family time. True happiness isn't about luxury meals or spending lots of money; it's about the love, sincerity, and bonds we share with our family members.
I established a positive homeschool and family culture during our homeschooling periods. I clearly explained to Paris that our homeschool and family culture defines home as a happy fortress. Home is a place where there is no manipulation or lies, only genuine love, and a space where we can comfortably be ourselves. Together, Paris and I established this happy family fortress together.
When Paris was 10, she established a rule: if negative emotions start to rise on either side, we must immediately pause, reflect, and say, "I'm sorry." For example, if Paris's negative emotions start to rise, she must immediately pause, reflect, and say, "I'm sorry." I then respond with, "I'm sorry too." A hug follows, which helps to dissipate any negative emotions. I absolutely love this rule set by Paris, and we have both followed it ever since.
If you asked me to recall our arguments, I would tell you that we don't have any. It might sound impossible, but it is true. Our positive homeschool and family culture has helped us maintain a harmonious and loving home environment.
Therefore, unlike other teenagers, Paris loves to stay at home, and she constantly laughs at the small joys of life. Watching her laughter and giggles always brings a smile to my face, and her happiness gives me an abundance of positive energy. The typical teenage rebellion does not exist in Paris at all. Upon reflection, I realized that this is a result of the homeschool and family culture we have built together.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
My daughter, Paris, was a member of USA Girl Scouts Overseas Troop 50, which was composed entirely of homeschool students based in Hong Kong. She actively participated in various activities hosted at the Girl Scouts headquarters in Hong Kong.
Cultivating a High-Level Mindset: Transforming Life's Challenges into Opportunities for Learning and Growth
Everything is centered around our mindset. When you have a low-level mindset, you see life challenges with complaints, emotions, and question why fate is unfair, allowing you to encounter these difficulties. This mindset is immature and remains at a lower level. However, as you journey through life and reflect on your experiences, your mindset will be elevated to a higher level. In this elevated state, your mind becomes calm, happy, and focused on growth. You view life challenges as a natural part of life, embracing them, seeking solutions, and reflecting on the process to facilitate growth. You seek inner and self-improvement through reflection.
This concept aligns with ancient Chinese teachings, such as the Daoist philosophy of "wu wei" (无为), meaning effortless action or non-action. It encourages individuals to align with the natural flow of life rather than fighting against it. Similarly, Confucianism emphasizes the importance of self-cultivation and moral development to achieve harmony in life.
Dr. Lai, a well-respected homeschool leader, has cultivated a high-level mindset through years of experience and reflection. She views life challenges with a calm, happy, and growth-oriented attitude, often using humor to lighten difficult situations. Dr. Lai embodies the Daoist principle of "wu wei" (无为), effortlessly flowing with the natural rhythm of life, much like water. When faced with complex educational or life challenges, she calmly assesses the situation, seeking solutions with a clear mind. Her approach not only benefits her students but also brings her a sense of fulfillment and joy in her work. Dr. Lai's mindset aligns with the ancient Chinese teaching of embracing life's natural process, accepting its inconstant and unpredictable nature, and finding growth in every challenge.
On the other hand, Kate, a young homeschool educator, struggles with a lower-level mindset due to her lack of life experience and understanding of the nature of life. She tends to react emotionally to challenges, feeling tense and overwhelmed, much like a very tensed rubber band. When the rubber band is tensed to an extreme level, a single impulse can cause it to snap back painfully, hurting the one holding it. Similarly, when Kate faces difficult homeschooling or life situations, her immediate reaction is frustration and anxiety. She often questions why she has to deal with such challenges and blames external factors for her struggles. This emotional tension can lead to outbursts or breakdowns, causing her further stress and negatively impacting those around her, much like the painful rebound of a tensed rubber band. Kate's mindset contrasts with the Daoist philosophy and Confucian teachings, as she resists the natural flow of life and lacks the calm, reflective approach needed for personal growth. Her emotional reactions hinder her ability to find solutions and grow from her experiences.
Applying Ancient Chinese Teachings:
Dr. Lai: Her calm and humorous approach reflects the Daoist teaching of "wu wei," emphasizing the importance of aligning with the natural flow of life. By embracing life's unpredictability and seeking growth in every situation, she exemplifies the ancient Chinese wisdom of self-cultivation and inner peace.
Kate: To improve her mindset, Kate can draw from Confucian and Daoist teachings. By practicing self-reflection, embracing challenges as opportunities for growth, and cultivating a calm and centered mind, she can elevate her mindset. Accepting the inconstant and unpredictable nature of life, as taught by Daoism, would help her approach challenges with resilience and wisdom.
Rethinking Homeschooling: Addressing Misconceptions and Embracing Inclusion
Finally, the picture above demonstrates how my homeschool student, Paris, socialized with her peers in Hong Kong about eight years ago. All of them are homeschooled students in the pictures. This image serves as compelling evidence to dispel the misconception that homeschool students lack socialization and are trapped inside the apartment doing nothing every day. Why do some people believe that traditional school is the best and only place for socialization? Why do they assume that students from traditional schools are all extroverted and confident, while homeschooled students are socially anxious? Addressing these misunderstandings about homeschool education in our city can help Hong Kongers break down cognitive barriers and foster a more inclusive mindset towards homeschooling. As a homeschool researcher, author, and founder of the Homeschool Association, I am committed to educating the general public about homeschooling and its benefits.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei, Vivien
Annie, a homeschool educator, social center manager, and the director of the Homeschool Association, is a passionate advocate for homeschooling. Her dedication stems from the transformative positive changes she has observed in her daughter's development since embracing homeschooling.
Cultivating Mindfulness: The Key to Effective Homeschooling
Effective homeschool educators cultivate mindfulness by practicing introspection during adversity. They seek to understand what can be learned from challenges, how to become stronger, and how to find solutions to overcome difficulties. These homeschool educators understand that life has its cause and outcome. They approach adversity with a growth mindset, viewing it as an opportunity for learning and growth.
In contrast, less effective homeschool educators often complain about adversity, believing that fate is to blame for their struggles. Their mindset of constant complaining keeps them unhappy and stuck in a negative cycle. This perspective prevents them from seeing adversity as a chance for personal and educational growth.
Real-Life Example: The Story of Sandy
Sandy, a dedicated homeschool educator, faced significant challenges when her husband lost his job, and the family faced financial difficulties. Instead of complaining about the unfairness of their situation, Sandy embraced mindfulness and introspection. She viewed this adversity as an opportunity to teach her children resilience and resourcefulness.
Sandy started by incorporating practical life skills into their homeschooling curriculum. She involved her children in budgeting, meal planning, and finding creative ways to save money. Through these activities, her children learned valuable life lessons and developed a stronger bond with their mother.
Additionally, Sandy sought support from the homeschooling community. She connected with other homeschool educators, sharing experiences and learning from their insights. This support network provided her with encouragement and practical advice, helping her navigate through tough times.
As a result, Sandy and her family emerged from the adversity stronger and more united. Her children developed a deeper appreciation for the value of money and the importance of resilience. Sandy's approach to homeschooling not only maintained their educational progress but also enriched their life experiences.
This story illustrates how cultivating mindfulness and a positive mindset can transform adversity into a valuable homeschool learning experience. Homeschool educators who embrace these principles empower themselves and their homeschool students to thrive, regardless of the life challenges they face.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Edinburgh, Scotland.
A regular gathering of homeschoolers took place at the home of a homeschooling family on one of the outer islands in Hong Kong.
Empowering Homeschoolers: Lighting the Path to a Bright Future
Our February 22, 2025, Homeschool Education Talks (HET) successfully concluded. We had three remarkable speakers: Dr. Meenakshi, a USA college admission consultant from Texas, USA; Chance, an AI expert and homeschool educator from mainland China; and Wu Binghong, an enterprise management consultant and homeschool educator from mainland China. All of them shared invaluable insights that empowered the knowledge of our participants.
We extend our gratitude to Dr. Meenakshi for sharing success stories of homeschoolers in the USA gaining admission to top universities like Harvard, Stanford, and Rice University. This has greatly inspired and invigorated homeschool educators in both Hong Kong and mainland China to pursue their homeschooling endeavors with renewed determination and optimism. They now see the hope in their children's futures and their homeschooling journey. Many homeschool educators and students chose to leave traditional schools in pursuit of freedom in learning, joy in education, or because they have special needs or gifted students who don't fit the standard teaching methods of traditional schools. They seek homeschooling as an alternative schooling approach that allows their kids to have a happy and thriving childhood. Some may ask why not send children to international schools or study abroad for a thriving and happy childhood. While this is a viable option for some, not all families can afford the high tuition fees of international schools or the costs associated with studying abroad. For those who cannot afford these options, homeschooling becomes a desirable alternative educational approach.
The Hong Kong Homeschool Association team proudly stands united with homeschool educators across both Hong Kong and mainland China. We will do our utmost to support and empower you on your homeschooling journey. Dr. Lai will forever be your guiding elder sister, illuminating your path and inspiring a joyful and successful homeschooling experience. Your happiness and the happiness of your homeschool students are our inspiration and motivation to continue our work in empowering you and contributing positively to our society.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien (a homeschool researcher, author, and educator in Hong Kong)
Dr. Lai regularly organizes online Homeschool Education Talks (HET), featuring educators from diverse regions and professional backgrounds. These talks aim to enhance the knowledge and skills of homeschool educators in both Hong Kong and mainland China.
Empowering Through Example: Building a Resilient and Happy Homeschool Student
The most effective way to teach a resilient mindset is through the example set by a homeschool educator. Homeschooling is a journey of mutual growth, where both the student and the educator evolve together. Reflecting on my own life, I realize that I was never formally taught the concept of resilience at school or at home. However, through my homeschooling journey, I discovered that a resilient mindset is rooted in a happy and growth cognitive thinking.
Life is filled with ups and downs, as well as unexpected lessons and gifts. Our mindset shapes whether we perceive these experiences as gifts or painful lessons. By maintaining a happy, growth-oriented, and detached mindset, we can view every negative life experience as an opportunity for growth. We can be thankful for the "teachers" who come into our lives, spending their valuable time to teach us these lessons. This allows us to reflect, overcome cognitive barriers, and upgrade our mindset to face greater challenges with strength.
Homeschool educator, a detached mindset may be something new to you. Let me explain it to you what a detached mindset means. A detached mindset means maintaining a sense of emotional distance or separation from negative energy, stress, or toxic individuals. It's about not letting negative situations or people affect your inner peace and happiness. This doesn't mean ignoring problems, but rather, approaching them with a calm, objective, and balanced perspective. By doing so, you can respond to challenges more effectively and maintain a positive, growth-oriented outlook. If you can develop a detached mindset like mine, you can quickly adjust your mindset and detach negative people from your life, learn from the experience, and move on with life positively and happily.
Recognizing the lack of life education in my own upbringing, I designed a unique life education curriculum for teaching Paris. I focus on instilling a happy, growth-oriented, and detached mindset. Leading by example has always been my preferred teaching method. I demonstrate to Paris how to approach life's obstacles and study challenges with a positive and growth-oriented attitude. I also show her how to quickly adjust and shift her mindset to detach from negative energy or toxic individuals.
I am proud of Paris, not for her early admission to university at the age of 15, but for her happy and growth-oriented mindset. I believe that my approach of leading by example and providing a life education has been instrumental in achieving this outcome.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Homeschool students in Hong Kong
Empowering Women: Be the Navigator of Your Own Life Decisions
Homeschool educators, don’t live solely for others. Don’t be afraid to follow your own dreams and make your own life decisions. Many times, women are hesitant to pursue their dreams and worry about what others think of them.
When a woman lives solely for others, a single glance from someone else can destroy her because her life is controlled by others. Her heart is filled with worry, fear, lack of confidence, and confusion—all negative emotions. However, when a woman lives and strives for herself, her potential is limitless. She becomes the navigator and leader of her life.
Homeschool educators, take control of your life and be the leader of your own journey. While it’s important to consider others’ opinions, but never let them define who you are or dictate your path. People’s opinions don’t reflect your true self and don’t define you.
A Real-Life Example: The Story of Emma
Emma homeschooled her daughter but was afraid to talk to friends about this choice, fearing they would criticize her decision and compare her teaching skills to those of school teachers. As a result, Emma conducted homeschooling in a worried and unhappy manner, which negatively affected both her homeschooling results and her inner peace.
One day, Emma called Dr. Lai and shared her struggles. Dr. Lai inspired her to trust her own decisions, take control of her life, and not let people’s opinions hinder her aspirations. This advice had a profound impact on Emma.
She started focusing on her own dreams and aspirations. She enrolled in teaching courses that interested and empowered her, began writing daily to record and reflect on her homeschooling experiences, and connected with like-minded individuals who supported and encouraged her. Emma stopped seeking validation from others and began to trust her decision to homeschool her child.
As a result, Emma’s confidence soared. She became a more effective and passionate homeschool educator to confidently lead her homeschool student. Emma’s story shows that when you live for yourself and follow your dreams without worrying about others’ opinions, your potential is truly limitless. If there are one hundred people around you, there may be one hundred different opinions about your homeschooling decision due to their diverse backgrounds, experiences, and educational levels. How can you take in 100 different views and opinions and still maintain inner peace?
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei in Edinburgh, Scotland.
Homeschool students from Hong Kong participated in Girl Scout activities held in our city.
The Core of Homeschooling: Cultivating a Happy and Growth Mindset
If the CPU was the core of a computer, then the core of my daughter, Paris, was her happy and growth mindset. Just as the CPU drove the functionality and performance of a computer, this mindset fueled Paris's happiness, motivation, actions, and personal development. These core elements provided her with joy, direction, purpose, and the determination to overcome challenges, much like how a CPU processed and executed tasks to achieve desired outcomes.
In homeschooling, a happy and growth mindset acts as the central processing unit, orchestrating a homeschool student's educational journey with happiness, resilience, and adaptability. This mindset ensures that homeschool students remain engaged and inspired, navigating various challenges with a constructive and enthusiastic attitude. Just as a computer relies on its CPU for optimal performance, a happy and growth mindset is the key to a homeschool student's thriving and happiness.
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee emphasizes in his book "Happy Mind, Happy Life" that a positive mindset can significantly impact overall well-being and success. Similarly, Carol S. Dweck's research in "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success" underscores the transformative power of a growth mindset, which fosters resilience, adaptability, and continuous personal development.
During my worldschooling journey with Paris, I dedicated considerable time to life education, focusing on building a happy and growth mindset. Through casual and intellectual conversations about the facts and nature of life, and sharing the ups and downs of my life lessons, I aimed to empower her with the tools for resilience and joy. I am proud to share that Paris has developed into a very happy and resilient individual. This achievement is something I cherish even more than her early admission into university.
Homeschool educators, do you agree that empowering your students with a positive mindset is essential in their educational journey? If so, what steps can you take today to inspire resilience and joy in their learning experiences? Reflect and take action—because the heart of successful homeschooling lies in nurturing a mindset that embraces both growth and happiness.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Hong Kong is a vibrant international city that attracts many foreign homeschooling families. At a homeschool student gathering, participants enjoyed learning together through engaging and interactive activities, fostering both fun and educational growth.
Lighting the Path for Homeschooling in Hong Kong
Tonight is our doctor friends’ meeting at the Kowloon Hotel, but unfortunately, I cannot attend. I’ve been overworking myself to build the infrastructure of the Homeschool Association, which has caused my eyes to ache severely once again. This recurring pain originated years ago during my homeschooling journey with my eldest daughter. I spent countless late nights crafting tailor-made learning materials for her, pushing myself through sleep deprivation and eye strain. Despite the pain, I persevered out of a mother’s unwavering love and dedication.
Thankfully, God saw my struggles and, through a family situation, gave me an unexpected yet much-needed pause. It allowed me to rest, heal, and regain my strength. Reflecting on that time, I’ve come to realize the delicate balance required in homeschooling—not only in nurturing children but also in sustaining ourselves as homeschool educators.
With 24 years of homeschooling experience, I’ve had the privilege of guiding and advising other homeschooling families. When discussing homeschooling, I can quickly discern their level of experience and the challenges they face. Over the years, I’ve observed a profound distinction between skilled and non-skilled homeschool educators and how this difference influences their success in their journey.
Skilled homeschool educators demonstrate a well-rounded approach. They adapt their teaching to their child’s unique needs, employ effective strategies to make learning engaging, and are resourceful in managing both education and daily family life. They consistently strive to refine their approach by evaluating their teaching practices and exploring new strategies for growth. They also prioritize self-care, ensuring they remain mentally and physically equipped to support their children. Most importantly, their homeschooling process flows effortlessly, like a waterfall cascading gracefully down a stream—a seamless, natural journey that brings both joy and growth. These homeschool educators create a nurturing and dynamic learning environment that empowers both themselves and their children to thrive academically and grow personally.
On the other hand, non-skilled homeschool educators may struggle with rigid teaching methods, lack of flexibility, or insufficient preparation. They often find themselves overwhelmed, as their efforts resemble pushing a heavy boulder uphill—a process that is exhausting, time-consuming, and fraught with challenges. The constant pressure of crafting a curriculum and balancing household responsibilities leaves little room for adaptation and fine-tuning necessary to meet their child’s unique learning needs. Without guidance or support, they risk burnout or losing sight of the joy and transformative potential that homeschooling can offer.
Recognizing this distinction, I embrace my role in helping homeschool families bridge the gap between skilled and non-skilled homeschool educators. By equipping educators with the necessary tools, guidance, and encouragement, I strive to empower them to refine their methods and achieve success in their homeschooling journey. At this moment, my motivation is driven by the profound sense of giving back to society and witnessing the joy and growth of homeschooling families as they flourish. Seeing the development of homeschooling as a dynamic and impactful movement fills me with purpose and gratitude.
Tomorrow, Dr. Dennis, YY, and I will have the honor of attending a media interview at Hong Kong Shue Yan University. Through this platform, I hope to inspire university students to recognize the necessity of homeschooling and the vital role it plays in our city. My aspiration is to foster greater understanding and acceptance of homeschooling as an innovative educational pathway, encouraging our city to fully embrace its development and potential.
Advancing homeschooling is undoubtedly a challenging yet deeply impactful endeavor. This mission holds the promise of illuminating the educational path for countless families and shaping a brighter future for generations to come in our city and beyond.
Written By Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Our group of doctor friends is meeting at the Kowloon Hotel.
From Storms to Strength: How Homeschool Educators Grow Through Challenges?
Just as trees develop thicker trunks and stronger branches to withstand future storms, homeschool educators can grow and become stronger by facing and overcoming failures. It’s like the nature’s way of saying, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger," a phrase often attributed to the German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche. This idea suggests that overcoming challenges, hardships, and adversities builds resilience, strength, and character.
When our homeschooling journey throws us into the whirlwind of failure, we might feel like a tree caught in a hurricane. Branches (homeschool dreams) may break, and leaves (homeschool plans) might scatter. But just like those resilient trees, we have the incredible ability to adapt and regrow. Our “parenting roots” dig deeper, finding new sources of strength and stability. Our “trunks (our core values and beliefs)” become sturdier, and our “branches (our skills and knowledge)” grow back even more robust.
Imagine a tree after a storm, standing tall with a few battle scars but also with a newfound resilience. Similarly, each homeschooling failure that homeschool educators endure teaches valuable lessons, making them more adaptable and better prepared for future challenges. We learn to bend without breaking, to sway with the winds of change, and to stand firm in the face of adversity.
Now, let me add a homeschooling twist to this analogy. Homeschool educators often face their own unique set of challenges—whether it’s finding the right curriculum, balancing multiple roles, addressing our homeschool students' learning difficulties, managing our own emotions while teaching, or dealing with societal misconceptions in Hong Kong. These challenges can feel like strong winds, testing the homeschool educators’ resolve. But just like those trees, homeschool educators grow stronger through these experiences. They develop deeper connections with their homeschool students, more personalized learning strategies, and a resilient mindset that helps them navigate future homeschooling and life obstacles.
Takeaway: Homeschool educators, you’re like those “resilient trees”, growing stronger and more resilient with each gust of wind. Embrace the journey, and you might just find yourself with a wealth of wisdom and a few amusing stories to share along the way!
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Homeschool students went camping together.
Navigating Parenthood: Avoiding Common Pitfalls of Immature Homeschooling
Embarking on the journey of homeschooling can be a fulfilling and enriching experience, but it's important to steer clear of certain pitfalls that can diminish your effectiveness as a homeschool educator. To ensure you're neither an immature nor a less effective homeschool teacher, it's crucial to avoid behaviours that can negatively impact your homeschool student’s learning and development. Here are six key behaviours to watch out for:
1) The Comparer: This homeschool educator's favourite hobby is collecting information on every kid in the neighborhood and presenting it like it's an Olympic scoreboard. "Oh, Timmy, you got a B in your homeschooling math test? That’s wonderful! Did you know Jimmy down the street aced his math exam at school and built a computer from scratch? No pressure, just saying!"
Lessons learned: Every child is unique and has their own strengths. Instead of comparing, celebrate individual achievements and encourage personal growth.
2) The Control Freak: : This homeschool educator treats their homeschool student like characters in "The Truman Show." Each day is planned down to the millisecond: "Breakfast at 7:05! Physics experiment at 8:02! No deviations!" The homeschool students can’t remember the concept of free time, but they can recite the schedule backwards.
Lessons learned: Giving your homeschool students a bit of autonomy helps them develop decision-making skills and fosters a love for learning.
3) The Yelling Hurricane: This homeschool educator has the vocal range of an opera singer and the patience of a soda bottle under pressure. Any minor mistake is met with an emotional monologue: "How could you forget Newton’s third law! How can you work out this maths question this way?"
Lessons learned: Maintaining composure and practising patience can greatly improve communication and create a positive learning environment.
4) The Personal Historian: This homeschool educator believes every lesson must stem from their own life experiences. "Back in my day, my school scores were excellent! Why can’t you achieve the same?" Constantly referencing your past accomplishments can make your homeschool students feel inadequate and discouraged.
Lessons learned: It's essential to balance sharing relevant personal experiences in a way that inspires your homeschool students rather than discouraging them or causing stress and pressure.
5) The Hypocritical Helicopter: This homeschool educator has a strict no-phone, no-gaming policy for their homeschool students, but spends their own time chatting with friends and playing games on their phone. "Johnny, you’re not allowed to play games on the computer! Now excuse me while I take this call and check my game notifications."
Lessons learned: Leading by example is crucial. Your homeschool students learn more from what you do than from what you say, so it's important to model the behaviour you expect from them.
6) The Authoritarian: This homeschool educator rules with an iron fist and expects absolute obedience. "You will follow my instructions to the letter, no questions asked!"
Lessons learned: Cultivating a harmonious balance among discipline, encouragement, and freedom creates a nurturing learning environment where your homeschool students feel secure to express their individuality and delve into their passions. Moreover, by granting them the latitude to make decisions, you empower your homeschool students to become active participants in their educational journey, fostering a sense of ownership and leadership in the homeschooling process.
In your journey as a homeschool educator, keeping these humorous archetypes in mind can help you recognize behaviours to avoid and focus on creating a nurturing, encouraging atmosphere for growth and learning in homeschooling or parenting.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
A group of homeschooling students, including my daughter Paris, enjoyed a fun gathering in the Tsim Sha Tsui area. Homeschool students are just like other students; the only difference is that they have chosen homeschooling—a personalized learning approach—over the one-size-fits-all structure of traditional schools.
Uniting Minds and Hearts: The Power of University Bonding and Friendship
Universities are more than institutions of learning—they are spaces for connection, growth, and lifelong friendships. These bonds often shape not just individuals but entire communities, leaving a lasting impact beyond the campus walls.
Our website, hsa.hk, embodies the spirit of collaboration and shared vision cultivated through university networks. It serves as a vital platform, rich with evidence and resources, supporting the development of homeschooling within our community. This achievement would not be possible without the tireless dedication of the team behind it.
Today, we welcome Jack, a Heriot-Watt University alumnus and accomplished digital marketing expert in Hong Kong, to our website design team. His skills will enhance the Google search engine ranking for hsa.hk in both Chinese and English, expanding its reach and impact. Jack's expertise is a valuable addition to our mission, and his involvement is a testament to the strength of university bonds.
Moreover, the unwavering support from YY, the president of Heriot-Watt University Hong Kong alumni, and Professor Tang, the president of Heriot-Watt University Mainland China alumni, further underscores the strength of Heriot-Watt University's alumni bond. YY, serving as one of the founding members of the Homeschool Association, and Professor Tang, taking on the role of a key member, have been pivotal in advancing our mission to establish a robust homeschooling infrastructure for our city. Their dedication and contributions exemplify the power of university connections to drive meaningful and impactful change.
I would like to extend my heartfelt gratitude to my esteemed doctoral alumni—Dr. Martina, Dr. Thimothy, Dr. Dennis Koo, Dr. Elizabeth, and others—whose unwavering support and valuable contributions have been instrumental in advancing the development of the Homeschool Association. Their dedication serves as a shining example of how university relationships transcend the boundaries of academia, fostering meaningful collaboration and driving innovation that positively impacts the broader community.
Let us celebrate the transformative power of university bonds and friendships—an enduring reminder that education is not just about acquiring knowledge but about forming connections that drive us toward a better future. Thank you to everyone who has been part of this incredible homeschooling advancement journey in our city.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
A homeschool student in Hong Kong with a deep passion for sailing, driven by an unwavering enthusiasm for navigating the open seas and mastering the art of this timeless sport.
Illuminating the Path: The Torch of Inspiration
Professor Dr. Chan, my most cherished mentor and research supervisor, has ignited a torch in my life, empowering me to become a dedicated homeschool researcher and author. He exemplifies the wisdom of the Chinese proverb, "A teacher is like a candle—it consumes itself to light the way for others." Professor Chan's actions have illuminated the path for me, convincing me to continue my journey of kindness and to shine a bright light for those in our city who are wandering through the dark tunnels of homeschooling and parenting education.
Indeed, no leadership style is more powerful than leading by example.
Here's an acronym using "LEAD BY EXAMPLE" to highlight Professor Chan's remarkable qualities and contributions:
L - Leadership in education
E - Empowering others
A - Advocating for leading by example
D - Dedication to teaching
B - Belief in Dr. Lai and homeschool community
Y - Yearning to inspire
E- Exemplary kindness
X - Xenial demeanor
A - Academic excellence
M - Mentorship
P - Passion for knowledge
L - Light to guide others
E - Encouraging growth
“LEAD BY EXAMPLE” embodies Professor Chan's incredible kindness, his contributions to the Hong Kong Homeschool Association, and his inspiration for me to become my best self.
We love you, Professor Dr Chan!
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Professor Dr. Chan actively contributes to the advancement of homeschooling in Hong Kong by participating in Dr. Lai's Homeschool Education Talks (HET). Through these sessions, Dr. Chan empowers homeschooling educators by highlighting the critical success factors essential for effective homeschooling practices and development. He also recognizes that the growth of homeschooling not only benefits Hong Kong's educational system but also strengthens its position as a more inclusive and adaptive international education model. By embracing diversity and fostering a progressive approach to education, Dr. Chan helps nurture global competitiveness within the system.
Sculpting Success: The Art of Learning Through Homeschooling
The Homeschool Education Talks (HET) on March 22 by the Alaska homeschool educators is incredibly inspiring. Homeschool educators, I encourage you to watch it in detail and reflect on your homeschooling approach. By doing so, you can learn a great deal from the experiences of Dawn and Teresa, as well as through your own critical self-reflection.
As a fellow homeschool educator, I want to share that throughout my homeschooling journey, I have made mistakes too. However, failure or mistakes truly do not matter as long as we accept them gracefully, reflect on them, and strive to improve. There is no perfect homeschooling pedagogy or flawless homeschool educator—every human learns through trial and error.
Think of the journey of homeschooling as crafting a masterpiece from clay. Mistakes are like the uneven edges or cracks that appear as you shape it. Rather than discarding the piece, we smooth out those edges, refine the form, and sometimes even incorporate the imperfections into a unique design. It is through this process of reshaping and refining that the final piece becomes not only functional but also beautiful in its own way.
Homeschooling is an ongoing process that involves experimenting, failing, and adapting. No one starts out perfect in any skill, including homeschooling, and errors are simply opportunities to identify areas for improvement. By reflecting on these mistakes, we gain insights and develop better approaches over time—just like a sculptor who patiently chisels away to reveal a masterpiece within.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
香港在家教育協會：學生笑容至上！
Bamboo Law: A Story of Patience and Perseverance
The Chinese Bamboo Trees showcase a unique and fascinating growth pattern. In its initial growth phase, for the first 4-5 years, the bamboo shows little to no visible growth above the ground. During this period, it focuses on developing a robust root system underground—a foundation that will support its future growth. Once this root system is firmly established, the bamboo enters a phenomenal growth phase. Remarkably, it can grow up to 15 meters in just six weeks.
Symbolism: The growth pattern of the Chinese bamboo tree symbolizes the importance of laying strong foundations and the value of patience and perseverance. Just like the bamboo, significant growth and success often require a period of preparation and foundation-building that may not show immediate results.
Just like the Chinese Bamboo Tree, homeschool education starts with an underground phase. For the first few years, it might seem as if there's not much visible progress above the surface. Homeschool educators might feel like they're not seeing any progress even though they're putting in a lot of effort into teaching their homeschool students. But here's the powerful truth: during this "quiet" phase, an extensive root system is developing. These roots are the critical foundations of learning—curiosity, a love for knowledge, becoming a voracious reader, and the ability to conquer challenges. Homeschool educators, you're setting up a robust system that will support an incredible growth spurt.
Then, comes the thrilling phase where everything changes seemingly overnight. Suddenly, your homeschool student blossoms! Remember those roots you've poured your effort into? They now push the bamboo homeschool student to extraordinary academic heights. Your homeschool student’s achievements start to grow as if overnight—gobbling up books, excelling in subjects, and mastering new skills faster than you thought possible.
To all homeschool educators feeling disheartened, remember the Chinese Bamboo Tree. It spends years developing a strong foundation in silent preparation. As patient bamboo farmers, you're cultivating more than just a student. You're nurturing a strong, flexible, and resilient individual ready to soar to remarkable heights. So, never give up—your homeschooling success is on the horizon, and your persistent efforts are about to show!
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Homeschool students in Hong Kong participated in a field trip to the sewage treatment facility.
Nurturing Tomorrow: Transformative Parenting for a Loving Homeschool Environment
The most distressing aspect of family life is not poverty, but parents who frequently resort to physical punishment, verbal abuse, deceit, and manipulation. These parents often act like immature children themselves, failing to grasp the true essence of parenting. They transform their home into a daily battlefield, inflicting serious emotional harm on their children. Consequently, they blame their children for staying away from home, shutting themselves in their rooms, and avoiding family interactions. Do they ever realize that their own flawed parenting is the root cause of these behaviors?
In a homeschooling environment filled with love, happiness, honesty, and no manipulation, even the youngest child who cannot speak yet would be eager to talk. Conversely, in a home that resembles a battleground or a mental institution, even a healthy and happy child would prefer to remain silent.
Practical Life Examples :
Consider a family where home is filled with love, no lies and no manipulation, led by examples and positive reinforcement. The parents use gentle guidance and open communication to foster a nurturing home environment. The child is encouraged to express their thoughts and feelings openly without fear of judgment or punishment. As a result, the child becomes more confident, happy, articulate, and willing to engage in conversations with their parents.
On the other hand, in a family where the home is constantly a source of conflict and fear, the child's natural inclination to communicate is stifled. The child may retreat into silence, avoiding interaction to protect themselves from emotional harm.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Dr. Elizabeth has been an invaluable support to our Homeschool Association.
Smart Parenting: Turning Our Home into a Fortress of Laughter
Our family thrives on a culture of laughter and humor, and my daughter Paris and I constantly find creative ways to inject humor into everyday life. Both of us genuinely enjoy moments of fun and shared laughter, and Paris, being a very considerate girl, always strives not to inconvenience others with her actions.
Recently, our apartment building management posted a warning notice about tenants singing Karaoke in the middle of the night. Paris, with her ever-thoughtful nature, approached me and said, “Mum, I think the management might be talking about me! Could it be my phone alarm in the middle of the night? What if the neighbors misunderstood and thought my phone alarm was Karaoke? I don’t want to disturb anyone. Do you think that notice is about me?”
I couldn’t help but burst into laughter because, realistically, her phone alarm wasn’t anywhere near loud enough to qualify as a midnight Karaoke session. With humor on my side, I replied, “Paris, maybe it’s time to test the theory! Why don’t you change your phone alarm to a ghostly screaming sound? Then we’ll wait and see if the next notice from the management complains about ‘neighbors hearing ghostly wails in the middle of the night.’ If they do, then we’ll know it’s your alarm causing the trouble!”
That idea sent both of us into fits of uncontrollable laughter, and we spent the next fun hour laughing loudly and diving into a fun discussion about ghostly pranks and haunted alarms. Paris’s worries melted away instantly, replaced by the joy of our shared humor and excitement over the ghostly twist. What could have been a stressful moment transformed into another happy chapter in our family’s book of laughter.
Initially, my daughter worrying about disturbing the neighbors with her phone alarm was turned into a positive and joyful experience through humor and laughter. By finding a funny solution and enjoying a fun discussion, Paris's worries disappeared, and the moment became a happy memory for both of us. So, homeschool educators, the art of parenting is simple: create a nurturing environment filled with love and laughter, address concerns with humor, and turn potentially stressful situations into opportunities for joy and bonding. By doing so, you can build a strong and positive family culture that supports your child's emotional well-being and development.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
During her worldschooling experience in Australia, Paris took art lessons with local Australian children. She found learning to be enjoyable as she immersed herself in diverse cultural settings and engaged in conversations with children from various international backgrounds.
The Education Pendulum: Finding the Equilibrium
The educational pendulum swings between two extremes: on the left, there is the overly lenient approach that focuses solely on daily happiness without considering academic learning and results. On the right, there is the intense emphasis on heavy study and intensive examinations, leading to high stress and potential burnout for both children and parents. The equilibrium point, where happiness and academic achievement coexist, can be achieved by maintaining a balanced approach.
Extreme Point 1: The Overly Lenient Approach
In Hong Kong, some parents adopt a very lenient approach, prioritizing their children's happiness and daily enjoyment over academic performance. For example, they might allow their children to spend most of their time playing video games, watching TV, or engaging in leisure activities without setting aside time for studying or homework. While this approach can make children happy in the short term, it often leads to a lack of motivation, poor academic outcomes, and difficulties in developing a strong work ethic. In the long run, these children may struggle to keep up with their peers academically and face challenges in their future education and career prospects.
Extreme Point 2: The Intense Emphasis on Academics
On the other hand, most parents in Hong Kong push their children to excel academically with rigorous study schedules and high expectations. These parents might enroll their children in multiple after-school tutoring sessions, extracurricular academic classes, and intensive exam preparation courses. The children are expected to spend long hours studying, often sacrificing sleep, playtime, and social interactions. This intense focus on academic achievement can result in high stress, anxiety, family intense arguments, and potential burnout for both children and parents. The constant pressure to perform can lead to mental health issues, reduced motivation, and a negative attitude towards learning.
Finding the Equilibrium: The GlobalHomeEdu Homeschool Example
To illustrate the equilibrium point, let's look at the GlobalHomeEdu homeschool example. Our unique GlobalHomeEdu offers my daughter, Paris, a balanced homeschooling program that integrates academic learning with worldschooling—immersive learning, hands-on learning, and life education. It's priority is to empower Paris to have a happy and growth mindset.
While GlobalHomeEdu focuses on holistic development, we also follow academic requirements closely. I tailor-made a teaching system to prepare Paris for IGCSE and IAL university entrance examinations, ensuring that she meets academic expectations and standards. This balanced approach allows Paris to thrive academically while enjoying a well-rounded education that fosters her overall well-being and growth.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Edinburgh, Scotland
A homeschool educator nurtures a love for reading in their homeschool students, using personalized lessons and creative activities to build strong foundational skills while inspiring a lifelong appreciation for the written word.
From Hong Kong Streets to Snowy Adventures: Paris’s Worldschooling Journey
My daughter, Paris, has fully embraced worldschooling, finding joy and knowledge through hands-on learning. Growing up in Hong Kong, a lively city with warm winters, Paris never experienced snow. For a child living in a busy city where snow never falls, the idea of snow might seem like something out of a storybook—something imagined but never felt. Worldschooling turned this idea into something real, letting Paris see and feel the wonder of snow for herself.
In New York, Paris got to experience snow for the first time. She happily danced through streets covered in soft, white snow, hearing the crunch under her boots as she walked. She held out her hands to catch snowflakes, laughing as they melted into tiny drops of water. Each snowflake’s delicate, beautiful pattern amazed her. She spent hours building snowmen, giving them creative personalities, and had fun snowball fights, her giggles filling the crisp air. These moments brought the magic of winter to life for her.
Her trip to Iowa added even more to her snowy adventures. There, she got to experience the deep cold of harsh winters—so different from the gentle winters in Hong Kong. Bundled up in warm clothes, she felt the sharp chill of icy winds on her cheeks. Paris explored snowy trails and saw frost sparkle on trees. She was curious about how lakes froze and learned about the science behind ice and the effects of cold temperatures. She even had fun sledding down snowy hills, her laughter blending with the cold breeze rushing past her.
For Paris, living in Hong Kong made these snowy experiences even more special. She didn’t just play in the snow; she also learned how to stay warm and safe in cold weather. Worldschooling gave her the chance to connect with the world in a real, meaningful way, turning ideas into tangible lessons. These snowy adventures became stories of fun, learning, and growth, showing how worldschooling blends joy and education. Through exploring and experiencing the world, Paris continues to learn and grow, making every moment an opportunity to discover something new.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Paris lay on the snowy ground, giggling with joy. The soft, cold snow beneath her made her laugh even more as she enjoyed every moment in the winter wonderland.
心隨境轉，境隨心轉: A Lesson from a Real-Life Pressure Cooker Family
The Buddhist phrase "心隨境轉，境隨心轉" means "The mind follows the circumstances, and the circumstances follow the mind." This emphasizes the dynamic interplay between our mental state and the external world. By changing our mindset and perception, we can significantly influence our experiences and outcomes.
Consider the example of the Wong family, who live in a competitive city in Asia where academic success is highly prized. Mr. and Mrs. Wong, both high achievers, have high expectations for their two children, Emma and Lucas. They believe that success in school is the key to a prosperous future and, consequently, fill their children's schedules with various tutoring sessions, piano lessons, swimming classes, and additional weekend courses. The Wong children have little time for relaxation, sleep, or play.
At first, Emma and Lucas strive to meet their parents' expectations, but as the demands increase, so does their mental and emotional fatigue. Emma begins to feel intense stress and self-blame whenever she doesn't achieve top grades. Lucas, once enthusiastic about learning, now dreads each new day filled with relentless academic activities. The pressure cooker environment starts to take a toll on their overall well-being.
One day, Mr. Wong notices that Emma has become withdrawn and that Lucas appears unusually anxious. He decides to take a step back and re-evaluate their approach to parenting and education. He remembers the Buddhist teaching "心隨境轉，境隨心轉" and realizes that they need to transform their mindset to foster a healthier and more nurturing environment for their children.
Mr. and Mrs. Wong sit down with Emma and Lucas to discuss their feelings and listen to their concerns. They learn that their children feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the constant pressure to excel. Mr. Wong shares the Buddhist wisdom with his family and encourages them to shift their focus from external achievements to internal well-being.
The Wong family makes significant changes:
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They reduce the number of extra classes and allow Emma and Lucas to choose activities they genuinely enjoy.
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They set aside time for relaxation, play, and family bonding.
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They emphasize the importance of effort and learning from mistakes, rather than solely focusing on grades and accolades.
With these changes, Emma and Lucas begin to thrive. They feel more relaxed, happier, and more engaged in their studies and activities. Mr. and Mrs. Wong also experience a sense of relief and fulfillment, seeing their children flourish in a supportive and balanced environment.
By transforming their mindset and approach, the Wong family exemplifies the teaching of "心隨境轉，境隨心轉". They understand that true success and happiness come from within and that nurturing a positive and balanced environment is the key to their children's overall well-being and academic success.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien
The inaugural meeting of the founding members of the Homeschool Association—Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien, Dr. Dennis Koo, Dr. Martina Chan, and YY—was held at the prestigious Kowloon Hotel. This historic gathering marked the beginning of a shared vision to redefine education and create a supportive community for homeschool families. Together, these passionate pioneers laid the foundation for what would become a movement dedicated to fostering holistic, joyful, and student-centered learning. Their collaboration serves as a shining example of how collective determination and shared ideals can spark meaningful change in the educational landscape.
On the first day of university, I accompanied my 15-year-old daughter, Paris, as any concerned mother would. I was worried about whether she could handle university life. Upon arriving at the university, I watched her navigate the registration process with confidence and without any fear or issues. It was then I decided to take the final step in her homeschool education: delegation.
Delegation, to me, meant empowering Paris to become a fully independent learner and teenager capable of handling her university studies and life on her own. I shared my intentions with her, expressing my trust and desire to empower her. She nodded, smiled, and accepted the challenge.
From the second day of university onwards, Paris managed everything by herself. However, every day when she came home, she would excitedly and briefly tell me about her day at university. She shared the details with me not only because she loved me and wanted to involve me in her life but also because she was smart. By consistently communicating with me, she earned my complete trust!
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Homeschool leadership
Dr. Lai researched homeschooling leadership styles by collaborating with homeschool educators across mainland China, identifying effective strategies for guiding students and fostering success.
Homeschooling is a journey of mutual growth and discovery. A homeschool educator is the leader of the homeschool journey, guiding and nurturing the homeschool students through various stages of homeschool leadership.
Stage 1. Direct Instruction: At this stage, homeschool educators provide direct instruction, teaching foundational skills, knowledge, and good habits. Also, homeschool educator closely monitors homeschool student's progress and provides immediate feedback.
Stage 2. Guided Learning : In this stage, homeschool educators transition from direct instruction to guided learning. The homeschool student starts taking more initiative but still requires significant support and supervision. Homeschool educators provide guidance, resources, and structured learning activities.
Stage 3. Coaching: As the homeschool student becomes more independent, the homeschool educator adopts a coaching role. Homeschool student takes more responsibility for their learning, and homeschool educator offers advice, encouragement, and support. This stage focuses on developing critical thinking, problem-solving, innovation, independence, and self-directed learning skills.
Stage 4. Delegation: In the final stage, homeschool student is highly independent and capable of handling their own learning and life. Homeschool educators delegate all responsibility to homeschool students. Homeschool educators remain available for mental support as needed.
By understanding and navigating these homeschool leadership stages, a homeschool educator can effectively lead her homeschool student throughout the homeschooling journey. Remember, each stage requires different levels of involvement and support, and it's important to adapt your approach as your homeschool student grows and develops.
Also, there's no need to feel anxious or worried, as these emotions can hinder the homeschool journey and family happiness. Instead, focus on putting in daily effort and cultivating a happy and engaging environment at home. With time and the right effort as well as right mindsets, positive homeschooling outcomes will follow.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Embracing Growth: A Parenting and Homeschooling Journey with Dr. Lai’s CALM Techniques
Parenting is undoubtedly a process of learning, and no mother is born knowing how to be a perfect parent. When a child is born, parents often find themselves navigating uncharted territory, making mistakes along the way. However, these mistakes and failures serve as invaluable teachers, helping parents grow and improve. Embracing self-reflection, mindfulness, and equanimity is essential for developing a positive and effective parenting style.
Practical Homeschool Example: The Story of Emma and Her Son
Emma, a homeschool mother, started her homeschooling journey with her son, Ethan, who was entering the first grade. Initially, Emma found herself overwhelmed by the demands of homeschooling and often became frustrated and hot-tempered when things didn't go as planned. Her lack of calmness affected her ability to teach effectively, and Ethan began to dread their homeschooling sessions.
Realizing that her ineffective parenting approach, Emma sought advice from Dr. Lai on how to improve her parenting skills. Dr. Lai taught Emma to cultivate a mind that is unmoved by external circumstances, a mindset Dr. Lai calls "Calm and Steady." To help Emma develop this mindset, Dr. Lai introduced her to the CALM acronym:
1. C - Center Yourself : Take a moment to center yourself before starting any homeschooling session. Close your eyes, take deep breaths, and focus on your inner peace. This helps Emma approach the session with a calm and composed mind.
2. A - Acknowledge Emotions: Recognize and acknowledge your emotions without judgment. If you feel frustrated or overwhelmed, accept those feelings as natural parts of the parenting journey. This awareness helps Emma manage emotions more effectively.
3. L - Let Go of Control : Understand that not everything will go as planned. Release the need to control every aspect of homeschooling and be open to flexibility and adaptability. This mindset reduces Emma’s stress and promotes a more relaxed learning environment.
4. M - Mindful Presence : Be fully present during homeschooling sessions. Pay attention to Ethan's needs, emotions, and responses. Practice active listening and engage with understanding. This presence fosters a stronger connection with Ethan and enhances his learning experience.
With Emma's newfound calmness and the CALM techniques, she began to see significant improvements in their homeschooling experience. Emma was able to communicate more effectively with Ethan, and their bond grew stronger. Ethan, in turn, became more engaged and enthusiastic about learning. They started to enjoy their time together, exploring new subjects and activities with curiosity and excitement.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Edinburgh, Scotland
Addressing Misconceptions of Homeschool Education in Hong Kong: Part 1 – Effective Education Must Be Led by a Certified Teacher, Not Parents
One common misconception in Hong Kong is that effective education must be led by a certified teacher and that a mother is not suitable to teach children at home. This misconception is totally wrong !
1. Personalized Attention: Homeschooling allows for one-on-one attention, catering to a child’s individual learning pace, style, and interests. This personalized approach can lead to a deeper understanding and mastery of subjects.
2. Flexibility: Homeschooling provides flexibility in curriculum and teaching methods. Parents can choose or design a curriculum that aligns with their child’s needs and can incorporate a variety of resources and learning experiences that might not be available in traditional schools.
3. Strong Bond and Understanding: Parents know their children best. This intimate knowledge can help in creating a learning environment that is supportive, nurturing, and tailored to the child’s emotional and educational needs. Love and care can foster a positive and encouraging learning atmosphere.
4. Real-World Learning: Homeschooling can include practical, real-world experiences, field trips, worldschooling, hands-on activities that enhance learning and make it more relevant and effective.
5. Parental Commitment: Homeschooling parents are often highly committed to their children’s education. Many take the time to educate themselves about teaching strategies and educational philosophies.
6. Diverse Learning Approaches: Not all children thrive in a traditional school setting. Homeschooling can be particularly beneficial for children with unique learning needs, whether they are gifted, have learning disabilities, or need a different pace and style of instruction.
7. Ongoing Learning and Self-Improvement: Teaching skills can be learned and improved upon with an ongoing commitment to self-improvement. Homeschool educators, driven by their love and dedication to their children, often seek out resources, training, and support to enhance their teaching abilities. This intrinsic motivation can lead to continuous growth and development in their teaching methods for homeschool educators
8. Homeschool education is a passion-driven learning methodology. Learning is driven by allowing homeschool students to choose what they want to learn to the deepest level. This intrinsic motivation encourages children to love learning and drives the best learning outcomes in homeschool students.
While professional training is valuable, it is not the only factor in determining the effectiveness of teaching. The combination of parental love, commitment, and the ability to create a supportive and flexible learning environment can lead to successful and impactful homeschooling.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Edinburgh, Scotland
Is traditional school the only place where children can develop social skills? Does limited recess time and school activities truly provide enough socialization for students?
One common misconception about homeschooling in Hong Kong is that homeschooled children lack socialization opportunities due to “no social interactions at home”.
Homeschooling and Socialization in Hong Kong
1. Flexible Scheduling: Homeschooling allows for more flexible scheduling, enabling children to participate in various social activities throughout the day. This flexibility can lead to more frequent and diverse social interactions.
2. Worldschooling and Global Citizenship: Homeschooling families often embrace worldschooling, allowing children to interact with people from different parts of the world. This approach helps students learn and understand various mindsets and cultures, preparing them to be global citizens in a rapidly globalizing world.
3. Community Engagement: Homeschoolers often engage in community service projects, volunteer work, and local events, providing ample opportunities to interact with people of all ages and backgrounds.
4. Extracurricular Activities: Many homeschooled children engage in sports teams, music lessons, dance classes, and art workshops, allowing them to interact with peers who share similar interests.
5. Homeschool Groups: Homeschooling families often form groups where children can participate in group activities, classes, and field trips, fostering friendships and social skills.
6. Online Communities: Homeschoolers can connect with peers from around the world through virtual classes, forums, and social media, expanding their social networks beyond their local community.
7. No Bullying Issues: Traditional schools often face bullying issues, raising the question: Is traditional school the best place for socialization? Homeschooling can provide a safer environment with one-on-one guidance from homeschool educators, where children are less exposed to bullying and negative social dynamics. Do children receive this instant and personalized support at school?
Conclusion
The notion that traditional schools provide the only avenue for socialization is a misconception. Homeschooling in Hong Kong offers diverse and enriching socialization opportunities that can rival, if not surpass, those found in traditional school settings. By recognizing and embracing these opportunities, we can appreciate the holistic and enriching education that homeschooling provides in Hong Kong.
Written by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Edinburgh, Scotland
Addressing Misconceptions of Homeschooling in Hong Kong Part 3: Homeschool Students Can’t Get into University
One of the most pervasive misconceptions about homeschooling in Hong Kong is the belief that homeschool students cannot gain admission to universities. This notion stems from the assumption that traditional schools and their certified teaching methods are the only pathways to effective education and university success. However, the experience of Dr. Lai’s daughter, Paris, demonstrates that homeschooling can indeed prepare students for higher education and beyond.
Paris, who was homeschooled using Dr. Lai’s GlobalHomeEdu method, transitioned to university at the remarkable age of 15. This personalized homeschooling approach combines worldschooling and homeschooling, allowing students to learn at their own pace and explore their interests deeply. Dr. Lai’s method emphasizes flexibility, critical thinking, independent, active learning, and a less demanding yet effective preparation for IGCSE and International A-level exams to meet the university entrance requirements in Hong Kong and globally.
Paris’s success is a testament to the efficacy of this approach. Her achievement challenges the misconception that homeschool students are at a disadvantage when applying to universities.
Dr. Lai’s GlobalHomeEdu method is designed to provide a comprehensive and personalized homeschool education that meets university admission standards. This method involves:
1. Customized Curriculum: Tailoring the curriculum to the student’s strengths, interests, and learning style, ensuring a well-rounded education that fosters a love for learning.
2. Flexible and Relaxing Scheduling: Allowing students to learn at their own pace and explore subjects in depth, without the constraints of a rigid school timetable.
3. Worldschooling and Global Citizenship: Encouraging students to engage with different cultures and perspectives, preparing them to be global citizens in a rapidly globalizing world.
4. Supportive Learning Environment: Providing one-on-one guidance and support, helping students develop critical thinking and problem-solving skills.
5. Life Education: Through worldschooling and an immersive learning environment, students are empowered to develop a happy, growth-oriented mindset. They learn to embrace life’s challenges as opportunities for learning and stepping stones for success, rather than feeling depressed and suffering as traditional school students might when facing difficult moments.
6. Leading by Example: Dr. Lai never blames, complains, or demands from Paris but instead leads by daily example and behavior. Dr. Lai’s actions, in contrast to the high-demand and high-expectations parenting style prevalent in society. Dr Lai inspires Paris to achieve, promoting mental well-being and happiness.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Edinburgh, Scotland.
Addressing Misconceptions of Homeschooling in Hong Kong Part 4:
Homeschooling is Expensive and Only for Middle-Class Families
"Educational success is not determined by monetary investment, but by wise choices and love. By utilizing resources, broadening perspectives, and nurturing global citizens, true education opens doors to the world."— Dr. Lai
Many people mistakenly believe that homeschooling is an expensive educational option only suitable for middle-class families. However, Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien and her daughter, Paris, have demonstrated that homeschooling can be both affordable and accessible, even with limited financial resources.
Dr. Lai not only implemented an innovative approach to cost-effective homeschooling but also focused resources on "worldschooling," helping Paris engage with different cultures and prepare to be a global citizen. Through cultural exchange, Paris expanded her horizons and improved her international competitiveness.
In a high-cost city like Hong Kong, many parents believe that raising a child requires a budget of HKD 4–6 million. As Paris's sole educator, Dr. Lai chose homeschooling, successfully providing her daughter with a high-quality education while saving this enormous cost. Her example showcases the potential for economic education solutions in high-living-cost cities.
Here are Dr. Lai’s key strategies:
1. Minimizing Financial Costs: By observing Paris's learning patterns and needs, Dr. Lai designed tailor-made materials to ensure effective learning without expensive education costs.
2. Zero Spending on Tutors: Dr. Lai served as Paris's educator, creating a curriculum based on Paris's strengths and interests. This ensured educational quality while avoiding costly private tutors and international school fees.
3. Utilizing Free Resources: By making full use of free resources such as educational websites, online courses, and local libraries, Dr. Lai accessed a wealth of learning materials without spending extra money.
4. Holistic Education and Experiential Learning: Dr. Lai emphasized affordable or free real-world learning experiences, including field trips, volunteering, and community involvement, enriching Paris's education without financial strain.
5. Worldschool Focus: Paris's exposure to diverse cultures allowed her to appreciate a variety of values and equipped her to thrive in a rapidly globalizing world. This internationalized educational approach boosted her readiness to become a global citizen.
Conclusion and Inspiration
Dr. Lai and Paris's story effectively dispels the misconception that homeschooling is expensive and only for middle-class families. By integrating resources and creativity, homeschooling proves to be a cost-effective option that fosters high-quality education and a global perspective. Their experience reaffirms that educational success lies not in financial expenditure but in thoughtful dedication and resourceful approaches to learning.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Edinburgh, Scotland
Dr. Martina is a dedicated and passionate founding member of the Homeschooling Association (HSA). Her tireless efforts and unwavering commitment play a crucial role in shaping the future of homeschooling in Hong Kong. If homeschooling is ever fully embraced by Hong Kongers, Dr. Martina’s contributions will undoubtedly be remembered as a significant part of this historic advancement.
Addressing Misconceptions of Homeschooling in Hong Kong Part 5: Homeschooling is a Full-Time Job
One common misconception about homeschooling in Hong Kong is that it requires a full-time commitment from parents, making it an impractical option for many families. However, the experience of Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien and her daughter, Paris, demonstrates that homeschooling can be highly efficient and flexible, allowing for a balanced and fulfilling lifestyle.
Homeschooling is a tailored educational approach designed to meet the specific interests, passions, and needs of each student. This personalized, one-on-one teaching method ensures minimal to no learning gaps, enabling more efficient and effective learning outcomes compared to traditional schooling.
In traditional school settings, it can take approximately 8 hours of teaching to cover a specific teaching topic for a large group of students. In contrast, an effective homeschool educator can teach the same subject matter in just 1 hour or less, thanks to personalized attention and customized teaching methods.
Dr. Lai’s homeschooling journey with her daughter, Paris, is a prime example of the efficiency and flexibility of homeschooling. Dr. Lai dedicated about 2 hours per day to teach Paris, freeing up the rest of the day for Paris to engage in her favorite activities. This approach allowed Paris to enjoy reading, playing, sleeping, and having a well-rounded childhood while still receiving an exceptional education.
Paris often expresses gratitude for the happy and fulfilling childhood she experienced through homeschooling. She always thinks that Dr. Lai’s personalized teaching method is the most effective and enjoyable way to learn.
Conclusion
The misconception that homeschooling is a full-time job is dispelled by the example of Dr. Lai and her daughter, Paris. Homeschooling offers a flexible and efficient alternative to traditional education, allowing parents to provide a personalized and enriching learning experience without the need for a full-time commitment. This approach enables children to achieve their academic goals while enjoying a balanced and fulfilling lifestyle.
Written by Dr Lai Mei Kei Vivien in Edinburgh, Scotland
Click the blue button to access Dr. Lai's second research paper on homeschooling in Hong Kong.
A Homeschool Student's Visit to a Sewage Plant in Hong Kong: A Few Years Ago
A few years ago, a group of around 100 homeschool students—almost all of whom were Western homeschool students living in Hong Kong—had the unique opportunity to visit a sewage plant in Hong Kong. This educational experience offered them a fascinating glimpse into the vital processes and significance of wastewater management.
During the visit, the students observed the intricate processes involved in sewage treatment, from filtering waste and removing pollutants to understanding how clean water is safely returned to the environment. This visit was not just an eye-opening exploration into the science of sanitation, but also a meaningful chance for the students to connect their theoretical learning with real-world applications.
As my daughter Paris and the other homeschoolers stood before the human waste treatment system, an unmistakable reaction swept through the group. Almost instinctively, they raised their hands to cover their noses, trying to shield themselves from the overwhelming odor. It was an unforgettable moment of raw curiosity and learning—one that brought home the reality of what goes into making cities function and the importance of proper waste management. Despite the smell, it was an experience that left a lasting impression, sparking discussions about sanitation and environmental responsibility long after the visit.
This collective hands-on learning journey showcased the value of homeschooling in providing tailored and impactful educational experiences. The visit inspired curiosity, fostered environmental awareness, and encouraged a deeper understanding of essential public health systems among these students.
Such experiences highlight how homeschooling can go beyond the confines of traditional classrooms, nurturing a generation of learners with a well-rounded perspective and a passion for exploration.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Addressing Misconceptions of Homeschooling in Hong Kong Part 6: Homeschooling Lacks Discipline
Homeschooling is a garden woven with love and wisdom, where children blossom in self-discipline and grow through responsibility. – Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Many people mistakenly believe that homeschooling lacks the discipline provided by traditional schools, but this is not true. Homeschooling can cultivate disciplined and responsible students through personalized and effective methods.
1. Personalized Discipline: Homeschooling allows parents to tailor discipline methods to suit their child's personality and needs, teaching self-discipline and responsibility more effectively than traditional schools' one-size-fits-all approach.
2. Continuous Reinforcement: Unlike traditional schools where discipline is limited to specific times and places, homeschooling enables parents to continuously reinforce positive behavior throughout the day.
3. Practical Application: By participating in community activities, volunteering, field trips, or "worldschooling" experiences, children can practice discipline and responsibility in various real-life environments, developing comprehensive discipline skills.
4. Parents as Role Models: In homeschooling, children can observe their parents' disciplined behavior and work ethic, which deeply influences their attitudes and actions.
5. Flexible Adaptation: Homeschooling allows for flexible adjustments to discipline methods, ensuring they meet the child's developmental needs.
6. Reduced Negative Peer Influence: In traditional school environments, students may face negative peer influences, such as bad behavior, peer pressure, or conflicting values. Homeschooling effectively avoids these problems as the learning environment is more controlled and guided by family values. Parents can help their children build healthy social circles while teaching them skills to identify and cope with peer pressure.
Connecting with Hong Kong's Reality
In Hong Kong, many families believe that discipline is central to education, and traditional schools provide a necessary framework. However, homeschooling families can also achieve the same educational goals. Through community activities, volunteering, and connecting with other homeschooling families, parents can create a diverse environment focused on character education. This model of education avoids the troubles brought by negative peer influences, allowing children to focus on academics and personal growth.
Written By Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Addressing Misconceptions of Homeschooling in Hong Kong Part Seven – Is Homeschooling Illegal in Hong Kong?
Homeschooling is not an escape from Hong Kong's traditional school system; it is a bold declaration of love for individualized learning. – Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Many people mistakenly believe that homeschooling is illegal in Hong Kong. However, this is not true. Homeschooling exists in a legal gray area—it is neither explicitly prohibited nor fully legalized and recognized. This ambiguity causes some parents to harbor doubts about homeschooling and makes it difficult for them to embrace this educational method. However, as Dr. Lai points out in her research, by clearly understanding the existing legal framework and related procedures, parents can create a personalized and liberating learning environment for their children.
For further understanding of the legal framework and implications of homeschooling, parents can refer to Dr. Lai’s research paper, "A Qualitative Study Of The Motivations, Challenges, Methodologies, And Impacts Of Homeschooling Undertaken By A Homeschool Educator In Hong Kong," where Section 2.4 (Page 20) provides detailed analysis of the legal framework, application procedures, and broader implications. This research paper can be accessed via the following link:
Dr. Lai’s study delves deeply into the motivations of families choosing homeschooling, the challenges they face, and the innovative methods they employ in practice. Her research demonstrates how homeschooling serves as a viable alternative to meet children’s needs, promote holistic development, and guide parents eager to break free from conventional educational paradigms.
Dr. Lai's Education Pendulum Theory: Finding the Balance
Hong Kong’s educational system is widely known for its intense competitive culture. The "cramming" and "pressure cooker" learning environments leave many children feeling overwhelmed and lead families to reconsider the drawbacks of traditional education. During the Hong Kong Happiness Summit 2024, Dr. Lai, together with renowned traditional education experts, proposed her "Education Pendulum" theory—a fresh perspective tailored to the real situations faced by Hong Kong students.
Link to the Hong Kong Happiness Summit 2024 discussion: https://www.hkhappinesssummit.com/guest-speaker
Dr. Lai explains that when the education pendulum swings to the right, it symbolizes a traditional high-pressure education system, where children must meet the societal and parental expectations of outstanding academic performance. When the pendulum swings to the left, it reflects students who completely opt out of schooling or pursue learning focused solely on happiness due to the pressure. Dr. Lai believes the real key lies in finding the pendulum’s balance point—the optimal combination of happiness and academic/social expectations. Based on this balance, she created the homeschooling model (GlobalHomeEdu) for her daughter Paris. This model not only ensures Paris’s mental well-being but also integrates academic development and societal recognition. GlobalHomeEdu provides a realistic and successful example for Hong Kong families.
Media Insights: The Power of Homeschooling
Dr. Lai actively participates in media interviews about homeschooling. In a feature by the South China Morning Post, she discussed how Hong Kong families are choosing homeschooling for their children’s health and well-being, sharing her educational philosophy and practical experience.
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Dr. Lai was also invited to contribute to a feature article by Hong Kong Economic Journal, exploring the practices and impacts of homeschooling in Hong Kong through case studies and community perspectives.
https://edu.hkej.com/php/article.detail.php?aid=61781
Dr. Lai’s involvement in these media discussions further reinforces the feasibility and effectiveness of homeschooling. Her contributions allow more Hong Kong families to see homeschooling not as an unreachable choice, but as a promising and practical educational pathway worth exploring.
Inspiration for Hong Kong Families
Education should not simply be a competition of grades and rankings; it should be a balance of happiness and growth. According to Dr. Lai’s Education Pendulum Theory, balancing academic achievement and mental health is essential to help children realize their potential and develop a happy, growth-oriented mindset. Parents must actively participate in their children’s education, making the family a core force in supporting their learning and development, creating healthier and more harmonious learning environments.
By reading Dr. Lai Mei Kei’s research papers, articles, and books, Hong Kong parents should recognize that homeschooling is not a form of retreat, but a profound exploration of children’s potential and a rethinking of the true meaning of education.
Her works thoroughly investigate the role of families in education, analyzing the motivations, challenges, methods, and impacts of homeschooling. These studies not only reveal how families can take a leading role in children’s growth but also emphasize how homeschooling can cater to children’s individualized learning needs. Through her writing, readers can learn how to balance happiness-oriented education with academic requirements and discover the ideal equilibrium point in education.
Author: Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Addressing Misconceptions of Homeschooling in Hong Kong -
Part Eight: Are Homeschool Students Truants and Social Outcasts?
With Dr. Lai’s educational pendulum theory as its compass, homeschooling becomes a path to equilibrium, where happiness and academic success are harmonized, and children are empowered to thrive academically and socially. – Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
When my daughter Paris decided to leave her primary school, the process seemed straightforward. The school administration and her teacher handed me a "Leaving School Form" to complete, requesting that I indicate the name of the school she would be transferring to. Without hesitation, I wrote down "homeschool," explaining that Paris was neither transferring to another school nor leaving Hong Kong. We were simply telling the truth.
But this truth led to unexpected complications. No one—neither the teachers, principals, administrative staff, nor even the social workers—understood what "homeschooling" really meant. The word itself was met with confusion, skepticism, and even fear. Questions began to swirl: “Does this mean Paris will stop her education altogether? Will she become a truant—a child disconnected from learning, destined to become a delinquent and a burden on society? Will homeschooling alienate her socially and make her a social outcast, disconnected from peers and societal norms?”
These concerns were relentless, and the narrative being pushed onto us was terrifying. Teachers, social workers, and even the Education Bureau officers seemed to share the belief that homeschooling could only lead to trouble. Paris was told, repeatedly, that what she was pursuing was wrong. She was warned that homeschooling had no future and that it was somehow illegal, a direct defiance of Hong Kong law. The pressure escalated, with warnings that as her mother, I could face legal repercussions—even imprisonment—for homeschooling her.
These accusations were not grounded in reality. They were fueled by a lack of understanding and the societal cognitive barriers that cloud the true meaning and potential of homeschooling. The idea that a child educated at home could be anything other than a truant or a social outcast was beyond the comprehension of many. This ignorance, combined with excessive worry, cast an enormous shadow over Paris’s pursuit of an alternative education. It deeply affected her mental well-being, causing her to doubt her own choices and question her dreams.
In truth, Paris was never without an education. She was not “skipping school” or retreating from society—she was redefining her learning environment to align with her unique needs and aspirations. Homeschooling offered her the freedom to thrive academically, emotionally, and socially in ways that traditional schooling could not. Her experience was proof that homeschooling is not an escape, but a courageous exploration of alternative paths to personal growth and success.
Moreover, the fear that homeschooling would isolate Paris socially proved to be entirely unfounded. Homeschooling opened doors for her to connect with diverse communities, including fellow homeschoolers, educators, and peers through various social and extracurricular activities. Through worldschooling, Paris had the opportunity to travel extensively to different countries, immersing herself in their cultures and gaining a deeper understanding of diverse perspectives and cultural distinctions. Worldschooling also allowed her to build connections with individuals from various corners of the world and of different ages. Far from becoming a social outcast, Paris developed valuable interpersonal skills and established meaningful relationships across generations and global communities, enriching her personal growth and broadening her worldview.
Homeschooling is like planting a seed in unconventional soil. While others may doubt its capacity to grow, with the right care and nurture, that seed can grow into a strong, flourishing tree—unique in its form and deeply rooted in strength.
This is the reality that society must recognize: homeschooling students are not truants or social outcasts. They are learners who deserve respect, understanding, and support. They are proof that education doesn’t only happen within the four walls of a classroom. It happens wherever there is curiosity, creativity, and commitment to learning.
Homeschooling is a forward-thinking choice in the education ecosystem in Hong Kong, empowering families to challenge societal misconceptions while celebrating the individuality of each child.
What homeschooling families like mine have faced is not an isolated issue. Many parents in Hong Kong share similar experiences, feeling as though they must defend their choices against misunderstanding and judgment. Teachers, social workers, and even policymakers often struggle to grasp what homeschooling truly entails and the positive impacts it can have. This lack of knowledge leads to unfounded fears and unnecessary stress for both parents and children.
As we move forward, it is essential for society to dismantle the cognitive barriers surrounding homeschooling. Schools and government bodies must receive proper training and resources to recognize homeschooling as a legitimate and valuable educational pathway. By fostering awareness and cultivating open-mindedness, we can eliminate the stigma that often burdens homeschooling families, ensuring that children like Paris are not unfairly labeled as truants, wayward, or socially isolated.
On a broader scale, embracing homeschooling can fill the missing piece in Hong Kong’s educational puzzle, empowering our city to evolve into a truly international education hub. By adopting inclusive and adaptive educational approaches, Hong Kong can align itself with global leaders in homeschooling, such as Finland, the United States, the United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa, Thailand, Taiwan, Malaysia, Singapore, and other progressive European countries like France, Denmark, Ireland, Switzerland, Belgium, Austria, Italy, Norway, and Portugal. These nations have embraced homeschooling as a flexible and personalized alternative that caters to the diverse needs of students, providing them with unique opportunities for growth and development. By learning from their innovative systems, Hong Kong can create a dynamic educational environment that celebrates individuality, fosters adaptability, and positions our city as a beacon of inclusive and forward-thinking education on the global stage.
Homeschooling is not about rebellion or rejecting societal norms. It’s about embracing the individuality of each child and creating an environment where they can flourish. For Paris, homeschooling has been a gateway for me to discover the equilibrium of the education pendulum—a point where student happiness meets academic achievement.
Author : Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Misconceptions About Homeschooling in Hong Kong: Part 9—Homeschooling as a "Competitor" to Traditional Schools
Education flourishes when it adapts—homeschooling adds the missing pieces, crafting a resilient and inclusive foundation for every learner in our beloved city. – Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien
Homeschooling in Hong Kong is frequently misunderstood as a rival to traditional schools, with some viewing it as a threat to the city's educational system and reputation. However, this perception is unfounded. Homeschooling is not intended to "take away" students from traditional schools or undermine the existing system. Instead, it offers an alternative pathway for families whose educational needs, values, or philosophies differ from those provided by the mainstream system. Far from being adversaries, homeschooling and traditional schools serve as complementary approaches, catering to the diverse educational needs of a modern, multifaceted society.
Dr. Lai, a homeschooling researcher, has termed the current state of homeschooling in Hong Kong as "stealth homeschooling." This phenomenon arises from deep-rooted societal cognitive barriers and misunderstandings about homeschooling. Many families, educators, and even officials within the Education Bureau remain unclear on what homeschooling entails. Consequently, homeschooling families often feel compelled to conceal their educational choices to avoid societal judgment or misunderstandings.
This "stealth" approach negatively impacts Hong Kong’s reputation as an international city. With a significant expatriate population, many of whom choose homeschooling, this lack of open acknowledgment creates an unwelcoming environment for an otherwise globally recognized practice. Local homeschooling families also hide their status for similar reasons, perpetuating a cycle of misunderstanding and isolation.
Dr. Lai highlights that such an educational phenomenon is unhealthy for Hong Kong, both socially and educationally. To rectify this and fill the "missing piece" of Hong Kong's educational ecosystem, the following measures should be implemented:
1. Educational Campaigns: Initiate public efforts to clarify misconceptions about homeschooling, highlighting its significance and value as a credible educational choice. Emphasize that homeschooling is a thoughtful and respectable alternative for families seeking personalized learning approaches while explaining its complementary role within Hong Kong's educational ecosystem.
2. Policy Development: Encourage the Education Bureau to establish clear guidelines and support frameworks for homeschooling families, reducing ambiguity and misconceptions.
3. Community Networks: Facilitate the creation of Homeschool Association homeschooling networks to allow families to share experiences, resources, and advocacy efforts.
4. Professional Training: Provide educators, social workers, and government officials with training to develop a better understanding and open-minded approach to homeschooling.
5. Media Engagement: Actively utilize media platforms to educate the public about homeschooling. Through interviews, features, and discussions, highlight that homeschooling is not a competitor to traditional schools but a compliment to the current traditional school system.
6. "Connect, Unite, Empower" Homeschool Families: Dr. Lai and the HSA (Homeschool Association) team are actively working to empower the homeschooling community in Hong Kong. Their efforts focus on connecting families, uniting diverse voices, and building a supportive infrastructure for homeschooling. By fostering collaboration and empowerment, they aim to create a vibrant community that normalizes and celebrates homeschooling as a legitimate educational choice.
By addressing these challenges and implementing these measures, Hong Kong can bridge the gap in its educational ecosystem and promote a more inclusive and diverse international education environment. This transformation would benefit homeschooling families while enhancing the city’s reputation as an international hub that embraces educational innovation and diversity.
Author : Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien (a homeschool researcher and author)
Reflections on Homeschooling in Hong Kong
Homeschooling is an alternative educational path that differs from the mainstream system. It is a choice designed collaboratively by both children and parents to create a personalized learning and family environment. However, in Chinese societies, homeschooling is often misunderstood due to limited public awareness and prevailing misconceptions. This lack of understanding leads to unnecessary social, peer, and familial pressures, making it more challenging for families who choose this educational approach.
A Time for Reflection: The Travel Analogy
Take travel as an example—years ago, joining group tours was the mainstream choice for Hong Kongers. However, should those who prefer independent travel feel guilty about their decision? Should individuals who choose to travel on their own be subjected to social criticism or moral judgment? Should they be questioned by their peers or society and bear the pressure of being labeled irresponsible or choosing a path that might lead to family difficulties?
Just because independent travelers do not follow the conventional guided-tour format, should their choice be stigmatized as "rebellious travel"? Furthermore, should they live in constant fear that discussing their independent travel experiences might provoke societal biases or even legal risks?
These dilemmas mirror the reality faced by many homeschooling families. Choosing traditional schooling is akin to joining a guided tour—it is a widely accepted and recognized education method. Homeschooling, on the other hand, is like independent travel—a self-directed and personalized journey. In Hong Kong, more people have come to embrace independent travel; shouldn't we adopt a similar perspective to acknowledge and accept homeschooling as a legitimate and valuable part of our educational landscape?
Family Autonomy: The Common Ground Between Education and Travel
In independent travel, families have the autonomy to take care of their members and plan their journeys at their own pace. Similarly, why shouldn't parents and homeschool students be granted the same autonomy to effectively complete their education? Just as an independent traveling family meticulously plans routes, manages time, and allocates resources, homeschooling families dedicate themselves to designing an educational plan tailored to their children's learning needs and family values.
Independent travel allows individuals to explore deeply rather than settling for surface-level sightseeing, and homeschooling enables students to achieve holistic development beyond mere exam-oriented learning. This autonomy and flexibility are not signs of negligence but rather reflections of deep responsibility and commitment to children's growth.
Why This Understanding Is Needed
Criticism against homeschooling often comes from well-intentioned concerns. Friends and relatives may say, "We don't want you to discuss homeschooling because we want to protect you from unnecessary trouble or legal risks." Many even fear homeschooling may lead to legal complications, believing that choosing this educational path might violate regulations or create difficulties. Such misconceptions further increase the pressure on homeschooling families.
Moreover, recognizing and accepting homeschooling is not just about individual families—it fills an important gap within Hong Kong's education system. Legalizing homeschooling could elevate Hong Kong’s educational framework to an internationally integrated level, aligning it with numerous countries that already accept and embrace homeschooling as a legitimate choice.
More importantly, homeschooling provides a safe educational environment for students struggling within the high-pressure school system. It offers a space for students facing severe bullying to heal from trauma and regain their confidence. These students are victims, not individuals with mental health issues, and they should not be blamed or labeled as failing to fit into the conventional school system.
Dear social workers and teachers, please do not hastily label these students with "mental illness" due to their emotional struggles. Do not immediately recommend psychiatric treatment for them. Such labels can become lifelong stigmas, casting deep shadows over their lives. Instead, we should support and understand these students to help them rebuild their self-worth and emotional well-being.
The Authority and Core Advocate of Homeschooling in Hong Kong
As a homeschooling educator with 24 years of firsthand experience, an academic researcher specializing in homeschooling (and the sole researcher formally documenting Hong Kong homeschooling), an author of homeschooling books, and the founder of the Hong Kong Homeschooling Association, I am a key authority and representative of homeschooling in Hong Kong. I have the ability to communicate the principles of homeschooling to Hong Kongers and educate the public on how to correctly perceive and understand this educational model.
Legalizing homeschooling not only ensures that homeschooling families feel accepted but also provides Hong Kong with a broader and more inclusive educational platform. Families can educate their children professionally and autonomously while contributing new educational perspectives and cultural insights to Hong Kong’s educational development. Most importantly, embracing homeschooling will create a future where Hong Kong’s education system is more diverse, inclusive, and internationally connected.
Author: Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien